wintersun Posted January 16, 2014 Posted January 16, 2014 Greetings, Long time since my last post in this forum. But to keep things short: We met, fell in love (madly), and then she went to another Country. We had a LDR for about 7 months (with it's ups and downs). We were engaged, and we had plans to get married. I rented a small but lovely house, and she returned to our Country to start living together. The fights started. Almost daily, over nothing! After 11 months living together, all hopes and dream are gone, as she spent this week packing her things. I helped. We've been crying for 5 days, almost non-stop. It's hard to see the one you love leaving, and it's harder for her, because I KNOW she loves me. But she can't live like this anymore. Maybe we are not meant to be together. Maybe it's destiny... but it hurts. I'm all alone, again, in what used to be "our house". I still have our pictures framed, hanged over the fireplace. I lost my happiness to return home after a days work. I arrive home, pour myself a Jack Daniels glass, and cry until I fall asleep. The house doesn't feel like my house anymore, and I am completely lost.
sw2020 Posted January 16, 2014 Posted January 16, 2014 Wow dude, sounds like you're in a world of pain. Good idea to be back posting on here again. Drinking is definitely not the answer. Do you have good friends and family nearby?
LostConfused123 Posted January 16, 2014 Posted January 16, 2014 I'm so sorry for your pain!! Do you guys know why you were fighting over stupid things? I mean if there was no cheating or abuse or anything like that, maybe you guys can figure it out and work on it. ((hugs!!))
strive Posted January 16, 2014 Posted January 16, 2014 I'm sorry for your pain. It seems like you still love each other but moved in together too soon. Sometimes there are people who just don't live compatibly together. But for me I think it's because you were LDR for some time and then you're suddenly constantly in each others' faces. It takes getting used to. But whether my guesses are right or wrong, it doesn't matter. What you need to do now is take care of yourself. It's normal to grieve but don't let yourself fall into a slump. Go out, talk to friends and family, and do things that make you happy. And of course, keep posting. There are people here to help.
Author wintersun Posted January 17, 2014 Author Posted January 17, 2014 First of all, thank you all for your words. She left. Today, I went home for lunch, and her father was there. We had a talk, then I soon bursted into tear, so did she, and after lunch we said goodbye... She went to the window to see me driving away, tears in her eyes and me gasping for air. This was the hardest week of my life, and I am so numb right now that I have no clue on what to do. Just arrived at work, late, with red eyes. I don't know if I can stay here much longer. I don't know how I am going to open the front door later, and realize that she's no longer there.
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