canal Posted January 16, 2014 Posted January 16, 2014 My ex and I broke up around 6 weeks ago and afterwards been in no contact for around 3 weeks. Then he messaged me to give me something back so he dropped it off at my work place last week and we saw each other. I did not try to initiate any conversations. He asked me how I was doing so I said good and then I asked him back out of politeness. To be honest I felt a bit nervous when I saw him again. I am on the no contact with him again now and want to keep it that way until i’m comfortable seeing him / communicating with him again. I have a question that’s been bothering me. How do I tell whether I want my ex back romantically or whether I actually just want him back as a friend? And how long should I wait before attempting to be friends with him (after I do figure out that I do want to just be friends with him and nothing romantic). Thanks!
TaraMaiden Posted January 16, 2014 Posted January 16, 2014 .... I have a question that’s been bothering me. How do I tell whether I want my ex back romantically or whether I actually just want him back as a friend? You shouldn't want that in either way.... And how long should I wait before attempting to be friends with him (after I do figure out that I do want to just be friends with him and nothing romantic). Thanks! When you can see him in the arms of another woman, with a stroller and their baby in it, and think..."meh, I'm really glad he's happy, but...so what?" THEN you can consider saying hi, congrats and I'm happy for you. Not before. Read the No Contact Guide in my signature. Oh, and learn to count. That was TWO questions......
preraph Posted January 16, 2014 Posted January 16, 2014 How you know is as long as you are still confused, you need to stay away from him and move on. 1
whichwayisup Posted January 17, 2014 Posted January 17, 2014 My ex and I broke up around 6 weeks ago and afterwards been in no contact for around 3 weeks. Then he messaged me to give me something back so he dropped it off at my work place last week and we saw each other. I did not try to initiate any conversations. He asked me how I was doing so I said good and then I asked him back out of politeness. To be honest I felt a bit nervous when I saw him again. I am on the no contact with him again now and want to keep it that way until i’m comfortable seeing him / communicating with him again. I have a question that’s been bothering me. How do I tell whether I want my ex back romantically or whether I actually just want him back as a friend? And how long should I wait before attempting to be friends with him (after I do figure out that I do want to just be friends with him and nothing romantic). Thanks! Stick in NC mode since you are still confused as to whether or not you want friendship or romance, it's best to wait longer. Also, consider that he may not want anything at all from you and may not be interested in a friendship or renewing the romance. 6 months is not a long time, let alone 3 months NC. 1
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