ratzgar Posted January 16, 2014 Posted January 16, 2014 Hi guys, I like a girl at my work. But I am really shy and never really tried to ask her out .! Surprisingly she asked me out for a lunch few months ago and it was really nice. Now we go out for lunch at least once a week. We discuss non-work related stuffs, things we do during weekend and our interest. It seems to me that she likes to hang out with me. But my confusion is , how can I really know that she is interested in me ? is it a rite time to ask her out ? Any suggestions are welcome
soccerrprp Posted January 16, 2014 Posted January 16, 2014 You've been having lunch together for two months. She seems to want to get to know you. Has there been any indication that she may be interested in hanging out OUTSIDE of work? What do you talk about? You can't really know unless she tells you or gives signs. The other way is for you to ask for a date and risk losing her as a lunch-mate all together if she says no thanks. Most would discourage at work romances, but you won't know until you know.... 1
Author ratzgar Posted January 16, 2014 Author Posted January 16, 2014 yes it's been almost two months.! She seems to be really interested in things I do and she ask lot of questions to explore about the things I am interested in. We talk about movies, Parties, our past time etc etc. i am not really good at reading signs, but for example if i say i am going for yoga classes, she would reply that she is also interested and wants to go out with me. At the same time she would not show the same interest every time. I am really scared to take chance to ask her out, cos I may lose a lunch buddy .! How can I make her feel that I am interested in her ?
soccerrprp Posted January 16, 2014 Posted January 16, 2014 yes it's been almost two months.! She seems to be really interested in things I do and she ask lot of questions to explore about the things I am interested in. We talk about movies, Parties, our past time etc etc. i am not really good at reading signs, but for example if i say i am going for yoga classes, she would reply that she is also interested and wants to go out with me. At the same time she would not show the same interest every time. I am really scared to take chance to ask her out, cos I may lose a lunch buddy .! How can I make her feel that I am interested in her ? She's not going to show interest every and all of the time. Remember, it's also a risk for her. Ask her if she's still interested in joining you for yoga. I think that's safe. You've and she's already mentioned interest, so not out of the blue. Yup, you may lose a lunch buddy, but if you don't make any move, you'll never know. She may simply conclude that you are not interested and move on. On the days you are not having lunch together, where is she?
Author ratzgar Posted January 16, 2014 Author Posted January 16, 2014 I would probably ask her to join some activities like yoga and see how she responds. She don't talk much to any other coworkers. She maintains really low profile with other people. Either she sits at her desk during lunch or she will go out by herself to eat.
soccerrprp Posted January 16, 2014 Posted January 16, 2014 One idea is to ask her to join you for lunch every day? How does that happen? Does she ask you if you want to go to lunch together or you ask her?
d0nnivain Posted January 16, 2014 Posted January 16, 2014 Try this: I like having lunch with you. Whaddya say we try dinner? Friday? My treat. 3
deathandtaxes Posted January 16, 2014 Posted January 16, 2014 Try this: I like having lunch with you. Whaddya say we try dinner? Friday? My treat. That's a good approach. Quick and easy. Or this, OP - "Have you been to XX? I hear they have a good happy hour." Or "Hey, wanna grab a beer after work?" Or anything really that is not work related. You'll get your answer right away. 1
deathandtaxes Posted January 16, 2014 Posted January 16, 2014 I would probably ask her to join some activities like yoga and see how she responds. She don't talk much to any other coworkers. She maintains really low profile with other people. Either she sits at her desk during lunch or she will go out by herself to eat. Does she take yoga classes? Do you take yoga classes? That might be reasonable, but during the classes I've been in, socializing DURING class would be a big faux pas. But at least it could get her out and you get time to talk before AND after the class. Bonus - her in yoga pants. Just sayin'
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