Krazieinluv05 Posted January 11, 2005 Posted January 11, 2005 I'm or was in a relationship that started off in the spring time,as an intimate one after a previous one ended bitterly.At first I supposed it was a rebound and after we met,he feel for me and the feeling became mutual.I was reluctant to share that and get into a relationship.We continued the intimacy but we founfd ourselves going to dates,talking,having fun.Being in denial for a while,I finally agreed to pursue the relationship.I wasn't open wit him and we had abit of ups and downs,the fact we're opposites was great for him but I wasn't sure how it would work but it did for a while. Later in the fall,I grew attached to him and we were together most of the times and he always wanted me to get my own private place-no roomies and just have him come over and maybe spend sometime at my place for a change.At this time,I was going through so much ordeal and t felt as though I was being taken care of by him and it was taking a toll on him.Come the holidays season,we had an argument and I left as always but came back and apologized.I later had to deal with a loss in my family.He wasn't sure how to handle it and he then told me how he felt that I was in his space and he feels as though when we hangout with his friends,I go because I don't trust him and I had never thought of that,and the fact that over the period of time we had been dating,I always pushed the idea of us being opposites. The very same day of my sibling's funeral, he told me that he still loves and cares for me very much but I suck the life out of him and he resents me since he's seen me way to much and doesn't have space.And that's when it ended.I was withdrawing from him and he said,I'll never understand.He asked whether we have been in a healthy relationship but I'm not sure,what I know is that he didn't trust me and he wants to now think about this before considering a reconciliation. Is it possible for opposites relationships to work?I'm a holding my breath for nothing?Should this relationship have a second chance?Did I ruin the chances here?What should I do because I really love him and he's the only man who's always treated me right.
chica Posted January 11, 2005 Posted January 11, 2005 Tell him how you feel. Write it down if face-to-face is too hard. re: opposites - keep in mind that opposites have the most differences and as a result, the most to learn from each other. It can be very challenging and would take patience and compromise as well as honesty, trust and communication, but it's very rewarding and has huge potential for growth - on both a personal level and as a partnership. In my opinion, it is virtually futile unless both parties are sure they want to make a go of it. good luck
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