Lucied85 Posted January 16, 2014 Posted January 16, 2014 I have been in an on/off relationship casual relationship for two years. He told me from the start he had serious issues with relationships and commitment having been broken hearted. He also lost his father when he was young and said he struggles with the idea of losing people he cares about and keeps everyone at arms length. We would follow the same cycle- get really close then he would disappear for weeks only to reappear again. I gradually fell in love with him and would always feel relieved when he returned from his disappearing act. Over the course of our 'relationship', we made it 'official' on three different occasions only for him to change his mind a few days/weeks later and tell me 'he can't do this, he'll end up hurting me, he can't commit to this'. I'd tell him to leave me alone as I couldn't keep getting messed around but he would never go for longer than a few weeks before getting back in contact. He has told me that he loves me, he will never find a woman like me, he can never let me go completely etc. But he has also been with other women for spells who he says he 'has no real feelings for whatsoever' and continues to keep in contact with me while he's with them. We slipped back into the same routine again just before Christmas, getting close again etc when suddenly he went cold on me. Then last week he texts me to tell me he's met someone and feels it might be going somewhere so he hopes we can just be friends. This is from the bloke who weeks before was telling me he STILL wasn't ready to commit to a relationship. This man, believe it or not, is the love of my life. Is it possible that he is genuinely that scared of intimacy/an adult relationship that he would rather commit to something meaningless rather than potentially the real deal?? Or am I just a complete mug for thinking I will 'win' him over in the end?
soccerrprp Posted January 16, 2014 Posted January 16, 2014 Whether it's true or not, YOU ARE BEING PLAYED LIKE A YO-YO! No matter the reason, your ONLY option should be to move on, block him and find someone stable, healthy. A dirt-bags dream.....a girl that is "in love" and willing to be used like a rag-doll w/o remorse or regret. Sad....
mammasita Posted January 16, 2014 Posted January 16, 2014 I'm sorry, you're a complete idiot for letting yourself get played OVER and OVER and OVER.....and over yet again. It's not always our fault though. Please please PLEASE read this book: women who love too much It describes you and everything you're going through to a "T"
Janesays Posted January 16, 2014 Posted January 16, 2014 You got played. He is not a commitment phobe. He just didn't want to commit TO YOU. As you can see, once he met someone he really cared for, he had ZERO issues committing TO HER. The only 'meaningless' relationship to him was the one he shared with you. Did he like having sex with you? Sure. But outside of that, you need to get it through your head that he feels NOTHING noteworthy for you. Please understand and believe that...it will give you the courage to walk away from this man for good. 1
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