Targetlock Posted January 16, 2014 Posted January 16, 2014 Hi So okay then i've started talking to this lovely girl online (she contacted me through one of my other social sites, not dating) and have begun realising that we have a lot in common and would be quite nice to meet up (she has already suggested it ) But there is a catch she on the other side of the country (roughly around a 3 hour train ride and also a bit pricy) so I'm just asking is it worth while looking into going to see her? or are these long distance things not worth the trouble? Knowing me I'm just getting carried away did tell myself last that i would not get involved in these long distance things, but life has other plans.
Author Targetlock Posted January 18, 2014 Author Posted January 18, 2014 Anyone? any advice or comments, anyone been in a similar situation and want to give any advice? thanks for any feedback.
InnocentMan Posted January 18, 2014 Posted January 18, 2014 Behave yourself. A 3 hour train ride in England isn't that expensive, if you book at the right times. There is also the much cheaper option of the bus. Stop looking for excuses. 2
Author Targetlock Posted January 19, 2014 Author Posted January 19, 2014 yep that is true that is something i do to stop doing myself something (usually new) if we feel there is a connection i will definitely make my best effort, just have to wait and see what happens.
Trnamakesnse Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 If she seems like she's worth the trip then yes.
angel.eyes Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 Is this a temporary distance? In other words, will she be moving near you at some point down the line? Alternatively, would you be willing and able to relocate if things worked out? Look at what happens if things work out and you become serious. Could you live with the constraints caused by the distance? How often could you see each other? Would that be acceptable?
MrMeh Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 You could ask if she could help you out financially since you are traveling to her place. Skype and discuss it.
Author Targetlock Posted January 19, 2014 Author Posted January 19, 2014 yes i would be willing to move if this worked out, the only thing that is keeping where i am is work and that I'm close to my family.
Teraskas Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 Hi So okay then i've started talking to this lovely girl online (she contacted me through one of my other social sites, not dating) and have begun realising that we have a lot in common and would be quite nice to meet up (she has already suggested it ) But there is a catch she on the other side of the country (roughly around a 3 hour train ride and also a bit pricy) so I'm just asking is it worth while looking into going to see her? or are these long distance things not worth the trouble? Knowing me I'm just getting carried away did tell myself last that i would not get involved in these long distance things, but life has other plans. So let's see: - SHE contacted you first. (And not through a dating site.) Out of curiosity, may I ask which site this was ? - SHE is the one who suggested you should meet up. Not a lot of info to go on, but I'd say these two factors are already an indicator that she's into you. If I was given such a chance, I'd go for it, even despite the fact that it's a 3 hour train drive. 1
Author Targetlock Posted January 20, 2014 Author Posted January 20, 2014 Yes Teraskas those are some good reasons that it looks good (we started talking on dyspraxia.org, the mental health forum and yes we both have it) it really was a pleasant surprise to be contacted to be honest. 1
Teraskas Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 Yes Teraskas those are some good reasons that it looks good (we started talking on dyspraxia.org, the mental health forum and yes we both have it) it really was a pleasant surprise to be contacted to be honest. Interesting, thanks for the info. Guess this proves that good things come to those who wait. ^^ I really hope things work out for you, hehe. 1
Author Targetlock Posted January 20, 2014 Author Posted January 20, 2014 thanks, did say to her about coming to see her and making a proper date of it but at the moment she would be happier we could get to know each other better before arranging a proper date, due to the distance and this is the first time we've both met someone from online. but its not a 'no' and there is no rush so you never know. just a shame she doesn't live closer, but i'm not letting distance stop me from something that could be great. will keep you posted with developments.
Thegreatestthing Posted January 21, 2014 Posted January 21, 2014 You want to know if love is worth 3 hours,it is. Hi So okay then i've started talking to this lovely girl online (she contacted me through one of my other social sites, not dating) and have begun realising that we have a lot in common and would be quite nice to meet up (she has already suggested it ) But there is a catch she on the other side of the country (roughly around a 3 hour train ride and also a bit pricy) so I'm just asking is it worth while looking into going to see her? or are these long distance things not worth the trouble? Knowing me I'm just getting carried away did tell myself last that i would not get involved in these long distance things, but life has other plans. 2
Author Targetlock Posted January 21, 2014 Author Posted January 21, 2014 You want to know if love is worth 3 hours,it is. i would like to think the same too
Author Targetlock Posted January 26, 2014 Author Posted January 26, 2014 Update: I haven't heard from her in almost a week now (not since Tuesday) I'm hoping its just she is busy or something, don't like these uncertainties, makes my mind imagine all manner of reasons why. any advice? or shall i just wait it out or give up?
Tayla Posted January 27, 2014 Posted January 27, 2014 Update: I haven't heard from her in almost a week now (not since Tuesday) I'm hoping its just she is busy or something, don't like these uncertainties, makes my mind imagine all manner of reasons why. any advice? or shall i just wait it out or give up? You sound concerned, can you possibly call her by telephone? Sometimes a simple call can clear up and releive your uncertainties.
Author Targetlock Posted January 27, 2014 Author Posted January 27, 2014 sadly i don't have her number, the only way i can contact her is through e-mail and yes i am concerned i thought i had something good going on but it seems not hopefully this is just a temporary blip or something
kart180 Posted January 31, 2014 Posted January 31, 2014 I am texting with the girl for quite a while. Good friends with me and agreed to date me whenever shes in town. She lives up in the northern states however when I cute things, she likes it however when I say I love u. She gives the regular response, u dont know that well. How do i get to know her. I would to date her but she lives in the Northern U.S and I down here in the south. How do i get to like me more than just another male friend. I do think she is just making fool out of me
Author Targetlock Posted February 1, 2014 Author Posted February 1, 2014 Update: I don't think this is going to happen now, still haven't heard from her in almost two weeks with no response from my messages. about ready to give up on the long distance relationship idea. Kart180: skype her or some kind of video chat maybe? 1
glimpse Posted February 4, 2014 Posted February 4, 2014 I've had a similar experience. I met someone on the other side of the country. California -> New York. First were messages (not on a dating site either) then texts, then skype. After six month We decided to see each other and spend the whole weekend together. It was fun. But it didn't really last since CA -> NY is a bit longer than a 3 hour train ride (&$'er) It was nice tho. Making an image on a screen a reality.
Author Targetlock Posted February 4, 2014 Author Posted February 4, 2014 well at least yours went somewhere and you actually met, mine didn't get nearly that far ah never mind.
kart180 Posted February 4, 2014 Posted February 4, 2014 Update: Kart180: skype her or some kind of video chat maybe? I doubt there is anything between us because when I said I love her she just texted back, you dont know me that well. She is willing to travel to FL for a date. I guess she is just pulling my leg and just saying we are friends. At least, it good to talk to someone. She just says really nearly every thing i say. e.g I said I support England in the World cup and she said me too. I know that she is playing because she just know im british and want to talk
Author Targetlock Posted February 4, 2014 Author Posted February 4, 2014 That is awkward just got to careful, at least you are aware of what is going on before you get too involved though saying ' i love you' without having actually met her in person maybe a bit too far but having never been in a relationship long enough to get to that point i wouldn't know. 1
winny Posted February 5, 2014 Posted February 5, 2014 You can ask her... hey what if we meet and like each other... then what next... What's her opinion about LDR. 1
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