george roy Posted January 15, 2014 Posted January 15, 2014 I started a thread a couple weeks ago, about the weird behavior from STBXW after we (well, she) decided on a divorce. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/separation-divorce/453473-behavior-after-you-decide-divorce Last night, STBXW and I were supposed to talk about the kids. She fell asleep before we could do that. I messaged her this morning. Me: "You passed last night" STBXW: "Yeah, I was exhausted" Me: "You wanna talk about the kids and plans for them tonight ?" STBXW: "Sure. Oh, and I looked at a place yesterday." (STBXW is moving out of the house) Me: "Ok. I have somewhere to be tomorrow afternoon. Should I call the sitter ?" STBXW: "No" Some time goes by. STBXW: "Is there any reason I shouldn't sign a rental agreement ?" Me: "No" STBXW: "Are you sure this divorce is what you want ?" Umm... You chose this route, remember ??? When we talked a couple of weeks ago, I laid it all out on the table, and suggested that we could work on reconciliation, separate, divorce, etc. She chose divorce. SHE chose this route. Why are you asking ME, NOW, if this is what I want ??? Input and advice is appreciated.
strive Posted January 15, 2014 Posted January 15, 2014 yeah, could be she's having cold feet about the divorce. or maybe she's gaslighting, in her mind she's making you responsible for the divorce so it won't hurt as much.
Author george roy Posted January 15, 2014 Author Posted January 15, 2014 yeah, could be she's having cold feet about the divorce. or maybe she's gaslighting, in her mind she's making you responsible for the divorce so it won't hurt as much. Could be a little bit of both. If she's serious about cold feet, then she needs to speak up and take her chances. Otherwise, it's just gaslighting (or "Hoovering").
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