MrTurk Posted January 15, 2014 Posted January 15, 2014 In my experience, I have noticed many women(not all) are lackadaisical when it comes to their half of interacting with a potential new date. Do you think this is done on purpose, or have many women been spoiled into a process, knowing that most guys will chase them anyways....and they dont even realize that they are only putting in 30% and the guy is putting in 70%??
MissBee Posted January 15, 2014 Posted January 15, 2014 I often see the opposite with a lot of women, esp those who come here, half the time they are chasing and putting everything into a man who is not that into them.
Eau Claire Posted January 15, 2014 Posted January 15, 2014 If I'm really attracted to a man I will put in an effort. It's the attraction to the man and not some silly formula based on a percent.
Author MrTurk Posted January 15, 2014 Author Posted January 15, 2014 I often see the opposite with a lot of women, esp those who come here, half the time they are chasing and putting everything into a man who is not that into them. Thats because those types of women CHOOSE to chase after idiots....and they IGNORE guys that are willing to treat them right.
d0nnivain Posted January 15, 2014 Posted January 15, 2014 What do you mean by lackadaisical? Women have been "taught" to not be aggressive, not to come on too strong . . .to let him (you) take the lead. If you mean she doesn't even put effort in dressing nicely for your date, that maybe due to lack of interest. If you find that she's not leading the conversation, she may simply be trying to conform to an outdated ideal. Or you could simply be dating the wrong women.
Author MrTurk Posted January 15, 2014 Author Posted January 15, 2014 What do you mean by lackadaisical? Lackadaisical mostly as far as fanning the flame once contact and conversation has started. Be it emails, texts, or phone calls. I've seen it no matter what the communication is. Women will be all gung-ho at first, sending emails back and forth multiple times a day, or texting a bunch, and then they always seem to fizzle out.....and I have to keep reigniting the communication. Once I reignite it, its going good again....but they always let it fizzle....as if its on purpose(to test me?) I think thats rude if I contact the woman.....and she never replies, and then I have to contact AGAIN to get her to reply. I truly believe a woman may still be interested in me......but she is just "taught" as you said into acting that way by society and other influences. Thats why I ask if any of you think that women even realize they do it?
Frank2thepoint Posted January 15, 2014 Posted January 15, 2014 In my experience, I have noticed many women(not all) are lackadaisical when it comes to their half of interacting with a potential new date. I think you are onto something. A couple of summers ago, I saw a man and a woman in a restaurant near where I live. They were by the window. I slowed down to check out the girl, because I'm a man and I have nothing better to do with my eyes. In the process I ended up taking in the couple, and realized they were on a date. The man was a good looking guy, well built, was smiling, chatting, leaning in, interacting with the woman. He was exhibiting the body language that he was interested in the woman. The woman, who was good looking as well, was leaning back, arms crossed, with no expression on her face. She seemed guarded and unimpressed. I continued walking, shaking my head.
d0nnivain Posted January 15, 2014 Posted January 15, 2014 I can't give you an explanation for the fizzle. Could they have simply lost interest. With OLD you always have to account for GIGS & the bigger better deal phenomenon. There's a joke about a department store that "sells" men. Women are told the prospects get better as you go to the higher floors but even though the building has 11 stories, they are told they have to get off at the 10th floor. Once they get off the elevator they are "stuck" on that floor; they can't get back on the elevator. On the ground floor, there are men. About all they have going for them is a pulse. Each floor gets better: nice guys, handsome guys, employed guys, etc. You get the picture. On the 10th floor there are well educated, drop dead gorgeous men who are good conversationalists, romantic, caring, rich, sensitive, faithful, sexy, good in bed & who have no emotional baggage. Still many women stay on the elevator & go to the 11th floor. There they are told that they have missed the sale & are destined to be alone for all time yet they blame that on the men.
potsticker Posted January 16, 2014 Posted January 16, 2014 Thats because those types of women CHOOSE to chase after idiots....and they IGNORE guys that are willing to treat them right. wut about women who chase guys who treat them right but are who(men) are completely oblivious and essentially friendzoned them(them being the women in this case)?
Eau Claire Posted January 16, 2014 Posted January 16, 2014 Thats because those types of women CHOOSE to chase after idiots....and they IGNORE guys that are willing to treat them right. No mystery why women put in little effort with you.
Weezy1973 Posted January 16, 2014 Posted January 16, 2014 I would say that in the courting / dating stage, men do put in more effort (at least until they get sex), but in relationships women often put more effort in (or at least it equals out). 1
Author MrTurk Posted January 16, 2014 Author Posted January 16, 2014 (edited) I would say that in the courting / dating stage, men do put in more effort OK???? Why??? Nobody on here ever digs into the details and answers why. There are a bunch of women that are reading this thread, so why can't any of them open the vault and answer openly and honestly? If you're a woman, and you know a guy is interested in you, why do you directly/indirectly not put in the same amount of effort as him? Do you think if he chases you that proves his interest in you??? What if he just wants sex?? He's still going to chase you! Edited January 16, 2014 by MrTurk
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