angelstar Posted January 11, 2005 Posted January 11, 2005 I'm hoping you boys can deliver some good advice to the following questions for all of Womankind. Some of these questions will refer to men & women who are in relationships right now and some will refer to those of us who are recently or longterm single and perhaps looking for MR Right? I'm also just curious to see what the response will be like as I have a few unanswered questions myself! Q1) How to know he is Mr Right and right for you? Q2) What are the tell tale signs to show he's really interested and not just wanting a fling? Q3) In a relationship why would a man reject sex? Q4) In a relationship why would a man not be open to trying new things with sex? Q5) When a man cries? what is he actually feeling? (Cause they never really tell you anyway) Q6) Why does a man ask a girl to marry him and then suddenly decide he doesnt anymore, especially when you thought all was ok! Q7) When a man wants space, what exactly does this mean in caveman terms! Q8) How can us girls cope with the whole space thing when it comes to our men?, what do we have to do! Q9) No Contact - how long do us girls have to wait before they start ringing us back Q10) When they do ring us back how do we know the difference between them just wanting to find out if we're missing them or if they want to rekindle? Q11) How do you know if a man loves you? Q12) What is the difference between I love you / I'm inlove with you when a man says it! Q13) What is the realistic age for a man to actually settle down? Q14) When a man cheats, why does he actually do it in the first place? Q15) What really gets a man interested in a woman for the long term? Q16) When a man gets depressed how do us girls handle it? Not too many questions I hope. I'm just curious to see what you lot have to say. The guy that wrote men are from mars and women are from venus doesnt quite cut the real topic of why men and women are so different. Please inspire us girls! Thankyou angelstar
jellybean Posted January 11, 2005 Posted January 11, 2005 Q17) How can you tell when a man is lying?...answer : his lips move
Author angelstar Posted January 11, 2005 Author Posted January 11, 2005 Now now jellybean, love the question, it made me laugh. But lets try not to affend our cave men now. It is funny though heheheheheheheheheheheheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee
Weird Posted January 11, 2005 Posted January 11, 2005 I'll take a stab at these: 1- you have to have an idea of what you want in a guy. If the guy fits what you want then chances are he is the right guy. 2- tell the guy you do not believe in just having sex early in a relationship and basically want to wait until marriage or until years of commitment. If he bails then he probably was looking for a fling. If he stays then he probably is there for you for the long haul. 3- because sex can cloud judgement and also can take over a relationship. It can lead to problems so the man wants to avoid those problems and wants to have a real meaningful relationship...this can go back to point 2. Now if he is having sex wiht the girl and sometimes says no to it then he may just not be in the mood. Yes, guys actually aren't just sex fiends...well, some of them aren't. 4- if the things are freaky he may not be into freaky deaky sex. While not freaky deaky, if I was with a girl and she told me she wanted to have some anal sex I'd say no way because I find it repulsive and will never try it. 5- usually when a guy cries (and they are real tears) he is sad. 6- who knows? humans are silly. I'd guess people who do this asked the question out of impulse, then thought it over and had doubts and changed their mind. 7- when a man wants space it means just that...the guy wants to not be bothered for a while and be left alone. 8- give the guy the space when he asks for it and dont make it bigger than it is. 9- hmm...no set timeline. If the guy does not have another chick lined up or if he gets rejected by another chick then it could be soon. If the guy has minimal dating experience it may be real soon. If the guy has lots of dating experience then it may never happen. 10- you'll have to be able to figure that out on your own but chances are he'll be pretty honest or obvious about what he wants. 11- how do you know if any person loves you? I think the best way is to see how they react when things get rough. If they bail on you then they dont love you. If they stand by you through the storm then they love you. Most people say they love another person yet they bail when the the rough spots hit...that isn't love. True love is sticking with each through the good & bad. Oh and chances are if he is beating your ass or calling you names he doesn't love you despite what he says. 12- no difference. 13- differs from guy to guy. I think most guys are truly ready to settle down before 30, 35 at the latest. I'm 26 and wan to settle down and have wanted to for a few years now. Most others I know around my age feel the same way. Problem is there are no decent girls out there to settle down with...at least none we have met! 14- Most of the time he cheats because he just wants to experience another vagina plain and simple. With many guys there is this odd and retarded thing where it is cool to sleep with a lot of women rather than 1 or 2 or whatever and humping a lot makes you a bigger man. It is sort of like how people count the number of beers/drinks they have...who really cares? I don't. Same can be said for those guys who think they are playas because they have slept with a lot of women....it does not impress me and makes me think they have issues. Now there is the odd case where a guy cheats because his girl treats him like ****. 15- a good personality and faith that she will stand by him even during the rocky times in life/a relationship 16- you should handle it by being there for him and realizing he doesnt want to be depressed and not take it as an insult to you which is a sign of being selfish. So those are my answers from my caveman self;)
tattoomytoe Posted January 11, 2005 Posted January 11, 2005 Angelstar: to understand mankind, we should first look at the composition of the word. Basically we can break mankind into two words: mank & ind. Now what do these two words mean? No one knows....that is why mankind is a mystery. ~jack handy inspired.
Mr Spock Posted January 11, 2005 Posted January 11, 2005 Q1) How to know he is Mr Right and right for you? Most people don't know the difference between Mr Right and Mr Right Now until it's too late anyways so don't worry bout that. Q2) What are the tell tale signs to show he's really interested and not just wanting a fling? Again, most of the time he's REALLY interested in a fling. Lots of really nice guys will behave like absolute turds if allowed to-it's up to YOU to clearly define what you want and accept nothing less. Q3) In a relationship why would a man reject sex? He's humping someone else and feels guilty. He's got an STD. He's Gay. He's tired, and has a headache. He has to pee. He worked all day and his back hurts. Dog elbowed him in the nuts and they hurt. Is not attracted to you physically. Is mad at you. His mother just died. He can't get it up. He's only attracted to small children. He's in debt, and worried. And on and on and on. Q4) In a relationship why would a man not be open to trying new things with sex? Thinks it's gross (how many WOMEN pooh pooh anal sex on this board-no pun intended) has some deep seated sexual and emotional issues. Doesn't WANT you to wear a strap on. Isn't comfortable with it. Embarassed. Doesn't care about getting you off or not. Q5) When a man cries? what is he actually feeling? (Cause they never really tell you anyway) Sad, happy, angry? Q6) Why does a man ask a girl to marry him and then suddenly decide he doesnt anymore, especially when you thought all was ok! Holy sh*t lady.....you shouldn't even be dating. Q7) When a man wants space, what exactly does this mean in caveman terms! He wants you to get the f*ck out of his face. Q8) How can us girls cope with the whole space thing when it comes to our men?, what do we have to do! Get the f*ck out of his face and find someone who worships you. Q9) No Contact - how long do us girls have to wait before they start ringing us back Forever. He's just not that into you. Q10) When they do ring us back how do we know the difference between them just wanting to find out if we're missing them or if they want to rekindle? "Hey, how you doin" and "Honey, I've missed you SO much-I think I've made a mistake" those are quite different sentences. Q11) How do you know if a man loves you? He doesn't WANT you to give him space. In fact, he is so into you he wants to marry you as fast as he can before some other guy finds out how great you are. Q12) What is the difference between I love you / I'm inlove with you when a man says it! Put that question in a different context perhaps? Like "I like my sketchers but I LOVE my prada backpack" Q13) What is the realistic age for a man to actually settle down? Whenever he's found the woman he wants to settle down with.....it's true. Q14) When a man cheats, why does he actually do it in the first place? Because he can. Q15) What really gets a man interested in a woman for the long term? The woman!!! Q16) When a man gets depressed how do us girls handle it? By being there, and being supportive. Not too many questions I hope. I'm just curious to see what you lot have to say. The guy that wrote men are from mars and women are from venus doesnt quite cut the real topic of why men and women are so different. Please inspire us girls! Thankyou angelstar
moimeme Posted January 12, 2005 Posted January 12, 2005 If the guy fits what you want then chances are he is the right guy. Nope. If the guy fits what you want AND he thinks you fit what he wants, then he is the right guy.
7on Posted January 12, 2005 Posted January 12, 2005 I'll take a stab at it... without reading the other posts first Q1) How to know he is Mr Right and right for you? Well, I did read the one above me - if he is right for her and she is right for him Q2) What are the tell tale signs to show he's really interested and not just wanting a fling? Calls, checks up on ya, appears caring to you Q3) In a relationship why would a man reject sex? Religious, waiting till marriage, low sex drive, scared Q4) In a relationship why would a man not be open to trying new things with sex? Scared, sounds unpleasant, boring ;P Q5) When a man cries? what is he actually feeling? (Cause they never really tell you anyway) I cry when I'm sad. Usually a heavy feeling in the chest Q6) Why does a man ask a girl to marry him and then suddenly decide he doesnt anymore, especially when you thought all was ok! Never seen this, so I don't know. Cold feet perhaps? Always hear about the woman leaving the man at the alter though Q7) When a man wants space, what exactly does this mean in caveman terms! He's not sure you're the one Q8) How can us girls cope with the whole space thing when it comes to our men?, what do we have to do! Give him space? I don't know, cause I never need space Q9) No Contact - how long do us girls have to wait before they start ringing us back Yell at them to call back, but hey I like needy girls as long as I like them too Q10) When they do ring us back how do we know the difference between them just wanting to find out if we're missing them or if they want to rekindle? I have no idea, maybe if he suggests a get together. Q11) How do you know if a man loves you? He'll say "I love you." Q12) What is the difference between I love you / I'm inlove with you when a man says it! Love you = romantic feelings; In Love = can't live without you Q13) What is the realistic age for a man to actually settle down? I would like to settle down early in life. My dad married @ 21. But 25-27 sounds good to me Q14) When a man cheats, why does he actually do it in the first place? My dad just cheated on my mom. He says he was looking for a friend and it just became sexual. I think it's the adventure of the "hunt." A man's primal instinct is to find a mate. And once one's found they feel the need to look some more. I think cheating is evil. Other times cheating just means that the man isn't satisfied sexually or emotionally. Q15) What really gets a man interested in a woman for the long term? I like caring. If a woman cares for the man and does stuff for him, then he'll see her for the long term. then again I'm not afraid of commitment. Q16) When a man gets depressed how do us girls handle it? Oooooooo, When I get depressed I'd love a girl to cuddle with or spoon. Just someone to hold and be there for me. Offering encouragement.
7on Posted January 12, 2005 Posted January 12, 2005 Originally posted by Mr Spock Q11) How do you know if a man loves you? He doesn't WANT you to give him space. In fact, he is so into you he wants to marry you as fast as he can before some other guy finds out how great you are. Yeah, what about the guys who are afraid the girl will see him as desperate?
Mr Spock Posted January 12, 2005 Posted January 12, 2005 You can assert yourself without looking desperate. Real men can, anyways.
aFighter Posted January 12, 2005 Posted January 12, 2005 Oh you women got me rolling! omg!! Too much male bashing and contempt here.
Urban Rubble01 Posted January 12, 2005 Posted January 12, 2005 Q1) How to know he is Mr Right and right for you? That's up to you. Personally, I knew the girl I love was "right" when I realized I couldn't imagine living without her (and, after 3 years still wanting to be with her every minute and still having good sex). Q2) What are the tell tale signs to show he's really interested and not just wanting a fling? Ummm, he calls before 11:00 p.m ? He spends time with you outside of sex ? Q3) In a relationship why would a man reject sex? Alot of reasons. Maybe he's tired, maybe he doesn't feel good. Maybe he's pissed off. Maybe he just doesn't feel like it. Q4) In a relationship why would a man not be open to trying new things with sex? Again, lots of reasons. Primarily that they don't like what you're asking or they are uncomforable. They might be embarrassed, they might be intimidated that the woman wants to try more than they, the man, do. Q5) When a man cries? what is he actually feeling? (Cause they never really tell you anyway) Are you serious ? He's probably feeling sad, upset, sometimes angry. Q6) Why does a man ask a girl to marry him and then suddenly decide he doesnt anymore, especially when you thought all was ok! Too broad a question. Maybe something you did changed him, maybe something HE did changed him. Maybe he met someone else. Maybe he just changed. Q7) When a man wants space, what exactly does this mean in caveman terms! It could either mean that he doesn't want to be with you anymore or that he really does need some space. Usually I'd say it's a nice way of telling someone it's over, but in some cases people really do just need some space. Q8) How can us girls cope with the whole space thing when it comes to our men?, what do we have to do! Why are you acting like this is a male/female thing ? It isn't. I would say you cope with it just like us men do. You analyze the situation, determine whether there is a chance of it working out and if YOU want it to work. If it seems there is a chance, you continue to love the person and be there for them. If the person tells you it's over and they don't want you ever again, you stop contacting them and move on as best you can. Q9) No Contact - how long do us girls have to wait before they start ringing us back Again, what is this "us girls" stuff ? These situations are NOT unique to one gender or the other. If someone has told you it's over and you're doing No Contact in the hopes they come back, you're doing it for the wrong reasons. Plus, everyone and every case is different. They may never call back, they might call after a month. This question is unanswerable because there is no standard. Q10) When they do ring us back how do we know the difference between them just wanting to find out if we're missing them or if they want to rekindle? The things they say. OR, you could just ask them, that always helps. This is the kind of thing that only the person in the situation is fit to decide. Q11) How do you know if a man loves you? My God, if you have to question it then he probably doesn't. Q12) What is the difference between I love you / I'm inlove with you when a man says it! Well, there shouldn't be any. If he's telling you he loves you but also saying he doesn't ever want to be with you then he's an insensitive ass. Q13) What is the realistic age for a man to actually settle down? No standard. I'm ready to commit right now, my friend Mike probably won't ever be ready because he can't stay attracted to one girl for more than a year. Q14) When a man cheats, why does he actually do it in the first place? Jesus you ask some broad questions. There are literally THOUSANDS of reasons. I'd say most of the time, for males, it's simply an issue of physical attraction, an issue of sex. Most of the time women cheat for more serious reasons, I think men are generally just horny and it doesn't say a thing about how they feel about their partner. Of course, these are generalities, sometimes guys cheat because they don't love you anymore but they can't break it off. Sometimes it's because they love you but you aren't giving them what they need in bed. Q15) What really gets a man interested in a woman for the long term? No one thing. These are purely subjective questions. It's different for every person. If you think there is one set thing that all men want you really have a negative view of men. Do you hoenstly think we're this simple ? Q16) When a man gets depressed how do us girls handle it? Again, all guys aren't the same. You handle it by determining how this guy you're SUPPOSED to know better than anyone would respond best. If I'm depressed, I want to be given lots of attention and told that my girl loves me and that's all that matters. Some guys want to be left totally alone. Surely you're in a better position to make that judgement than a bunch of strangers who've never met you or your guy.
Author angelstar Posted January 13, 2005 Author Posted January 13, 2005 I asked the questions and got the answers. Some where pleasant and some were insensitive. But you get that.... I''ve got a heart to mend. I'm sorry to all you men out there for pretty much thinking you were from a different planet. Having read my questions again. You're no different from us. We're all human, cry, laugh, screw around bla bla bla... I'm confused about alot of things and needed some advice thats all. I'm moving on, thanks for reading anyhow.
aFighter Posted January 13, 2005 Posted January 13, 2005 Originally posted by angelstar I'm sorry to all you men out there for pretty much thinking you were from a different planet. Having read my questions again. You're no different from us. We're all human, cry, laugh, screw around bla bla bla... That's alright then
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