love1336x Posted January 15, 2014 Posted January 15, 2014 It is a month from now! How will you cope with this holiday? Will you try to find somebody to date that day? Soak in your pities of being single? Me personally, i've never care for the holiday. If my boyfriend at the time buys me flowers. I will always say thank you, but over all I am okay with getting nothing. I usually go all out for my mother. I buy her roses, candy and a card. How will you cope with valentine day?
jphcbpa Posted January 15, 2014 Posted January 15, 2014 take myself on a date. I will probably get a massage and have a great meal alone or with a buddy of mine (the meal that is. haha) 3
dozer561 Posted January 15, 2014 Posted January 15, 2014 no idea, dreading it actually, and it is my birthday that day as well, will be 4months (1 month NC) out of 7 year relationship. Probably just sit home alone.
magicmoon Posted January 15, 2014 Posted January 15, 2014 I never thought much abot the holiday. Overrated marketing aproach. Never celebrated it even when in a relationship (thanks god for a like minded ex). I will probably buy myself some cake In my town people hang big read hearts with love quotes and dedications all around the town. On the housw walls, random trees, streetlights... if I get bored, my jaded self might turn antisocail and burn them all Just kidding.
Simon Phoenix Posted January 15, 2014 Posted January 15, 2014 Couldn't care less about Valentine's Day.
Toddbt12y1 Posted January 15, 2014 Posted January 15, 2014 Just another day. My ex was born on that day. Still, to me it is another day. And one that will pass, like any other day. Single or not.
LostConfused123 Posted January 15, 2014 Posted January 15, 2014 This post made me go look at the calendar and see what night it falls on. Hoping it was a Tuesday or something so I would have to work, get home, do some chores and go to bed without really thinking about it. . . . No such luck! . . . . it's a full moon Friday. ugh!!! I'll probably go out somewhere I guess. Kinda makes me sad because I always spoiled the man I was with. I mean, I made a way bigger deal out of it than him. I always had takeout delivered to his work with some red roses (I know you guys HATE that but it's the only day I could get away with it) Then that night rather than going out I preferred to stay in. I made a heart shaped meatloaf or pizza. Drank cheap champagne and had a huge box of chocolates for us to share while we watched movies. Then . . . . You know. . . LOL!!!! I really miss doing things like that!!! Hopefully the next guy will enjoy and appreciate that kind of Valentine's day! By the time that day comes it will be almost 4 months so hopefully I won't get too sad 1
jphcbpa Posted January 15, 2014 Posted January 15, 2014 I never thought much abot the holiday. Overrated marketing aproach. Never celebrated it even when in a relationship (thanks god for a like minded ex). . agreed...everyday is VDAY when you are with someone you love. 1
d0nnivain Posted January 15, 2014 Posted January 15, 2014 Believe it or not one of my favorite V-day memories was shortly after a bad break up. A dear friend & I bought some wine & great chocolate. We put pictures of our EXs on a dart board & threw darts at them until their faces were obliterated, which took a long time as our aim got worse the more we drank. We blasted anti-love songs, especially Love Stinks, & danced around the apartment. It was very cathartic. On other years when I didn't have a date, I would reach out for other women in my same situation & plan something just so we'd be together & active. It helped take my mind off my perceived loss. 3
pickflicker Posted January 15, 2014 Posted January 15, 2014 It is a month from now! How will you cope with this holiday? Will you try to find somebody to date that day? Soak in your pities of being single? Me personally, i've never care for the holiday. If my boyfriend at the time buys me flowers. I will always say thank you, but over all I am okay with getting nothing. I usually go all out for my mother. I buy her roses, candy and a card. How will you cope with valentine day? I've never considered it a day special from any other day, either partnered up or single.
LostConfused123 Posted January 15, 2014 Posted January 15, 2014 Believe it or not one of my favorite V-day memories was shortly after a bad break up. A dear friend & I bought some wine & great chocolate. We put pictures of our EXs on a dart board & threw darts at them until their faces were obliterated, which took a long time as our aim got worse the more we drank. We blasted anti-love songs, especially Love Stinks, & danced around the apartment. It was very cathartic. On other years when I didn't have a date, I would reach out for other women in my same situation & plan something just so we'd be together & active. It helped take my mind off my perceived loss. I love this idea!! I think my plans for that night just changed. I don't have any pictures of ;him" not one. Deleted them all. . . . But I'll think of something. LOL!!!! 2
Mrlonelyone Posted January 16, 2014 Posted January 16, 2014 I neither want to find anyone new, nor try to rekindle anything before that day. It complicates things too much either way. I am just glad to not have to spend $$ on that BS. 1
Heartbroken Eagle Posted January 16, 2014 Posted January 16, 2014 My D day was last Valentine's night when I saw the text on her phone from my ex's AP. I will be celebrating my freedom this year with a pizza with my son. Happy days... 3
Simon Phoenix Posted January 16, 2014 Posted January 16, 2014 Believe it or not one of my favorite V-day memories was shortly after a bad break up. A dear friend & I bought some wine & great chocolate. We put pictures of our EXs on a dart board & threw darts at them until their faces were obliterated, which took a long time as our aim got worse the more we drank. We blasted anti-love songs, especially Love Stinks, & danced around the apartment. It was very cathartic. On other years when I didn't have a date, I would reach out for other women in my same situation & plan something just so we'd be together & active. It helped take my mind off my perceived loss. I used to troll bars at happy hour looking for single women
Author love1336x Posted January 16, 2014 Author Posted January 16, 2014 Just another day. My ex was born on that day. Still, to me it is another day. And one that will pass, like any other day. Single or not. Will you wish your ex happy birthday? V-day is my current ex's girlfriend birthday... I hate the fact I remember that, but he did cheat on me with her, and I remember him telling me about her birthday how it's on V-day!
firefly2613 Posted January 16, 2014 Posted January 16, 2014 I don't have plans yet but I need to make some for sure. Her birthday is the day before valentine's day... 1
Mariposa10 Posted January 16, 2014 Posted January 16, 2014 I don't care about Valentine's day. My ex and I never celebrated it. 1
Fufu Posted January 16, 2014 Posted January 16, 2014 V day is just another day. Doesn't make any difference from any other days. It's your mindset that counts. Perhaps you can grab a few friends who are also single or with your family for a good meal or even just stay at home relax and watch a movie or so could be nice and cosy too. 2
JDPT Posted January 16, 2014 Posted January 16, 2014 Didn't care for it much, I forced myself to it because of the ex. Since we are broken up I no longer need to spend on anyone but ME. 1
Toddbt12y1 Posted January 16, 2014 Posted January 16, 2014 Will you wish your ex happy birthday? V-day is my current ex's girlfriend birthday... I hate the fact I remember that, but he did cheat on me with her, and I remember him telling me about her birthday how it's on V-day! Lol, is her name Sara/Gemma he cheated with? No, I would never wish her happy birthday. I did not, last year or the year before that. It will only reopen contact. Bring up no - good emotions. If she even bothered to respond. She loved to see me down, to torture me. She probably would for that sole fact. Truth is, one should avoid, at all costs, further contact with an ex, that may have ended badly. You or even me, would only be feeding them and their ego more power over us both. I think that they have drunk enough off our pains, you agree? I just see it anyhow as another day. It was only special, as I was in a relationship with her, and her b - day happened on said day. Everyday is special, if you are with the one you love... No need to be down on Valentines Day. Realize that you ccan and should love yourself; give yourself that as a gift on this "day." 1
JoelBarish Posted January 16, 2014 Posted January 16, 2014 Valentine's Day would have been my 2 year anniversary with my ex.... I am thinking I will ignore the day and hope it goes away 2
radiodarcy Posted January 16, 2014 Posted January 16, 2014 Never really been into Valentine's Day - - aside from the chocolate - - and that I buy for myself :bunny: 1
seekingpeaceinlove Posted January 16, 2014 Posted January 16, 2014 Omg, me too, Joel. V-day would have been 2 years for me and my ex as well. Good plan, let's ignore the day and hopefully it'll lose it's meaning sooner than later. Valentine's Day would have been my 2 year anniversary with my ex.... I am thinking I will ignore the day and hope it goes away
todreaminblue Posted January 16, 2014 Posted January 16, 2014 i think every day when you are with someone should be a renewal.....every time the sun comes up to do something special for no real reason..a quiet interlude in a sea of routine responsibility......valentines day on random and with stealth.....stealth valentines yeah......fun....same goes for singles....show someone you care any day of the year......for no real reason other than love....dotn need a hall mark to set the date.....just one day ...there it is desire by proxy cupid to show someone what they mean to you .....i think the saints dedicated of love and with love would appreciate the whimsical.......deb 1
Babolat Posted January 17, 2014 Posted January 17, 2014 In a relationship or not, just another day for me. I see this as one of those "marketing" holidays. If dating, I will take care of my partner, gifts, dinner, do something special, etc. Not a big deal for me for her to reciprocate though.
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