Better Posted January 15, 2014 Posted January 15, 2014 I met someone for the first time at an event for a mutually shared interest. We enjoyed the event, skipped out on the rest of the group for a long dinner on our own, and then shared a ride home. We even had a nice kiss at the end. I tried to reach her a few times afterwards but didn't get a response. Based on the medium in which I was communicating, I know that she read my message almost immediately. After she didn't respond, I wrote her off thinking that she didn't consider it a match. These things happen and I totally understand that. Two weeks later I received an e-mail response saying that she was sorry it took her so long to respond but that she hoped to see me at the next group event. I know that she's been active in the interim with our shared group so she had time to respond before, but chose not to. How would you respond to her e-mail?
mammasita Posted January 15, 2014 Posted January 15, 2014 Keep it moving. 2 weeks is lack of interest.
datingnoob93 Posted January 15, 2014 Posted January 15, 2014 don't respond at all to the email. Just show up to the group event and act like nothing happened, and ask her out in person if you want to see her again. ooh even better just ignore her at the event. If she likes you she'll make a move instead.
MissBee Posted January 15, 2014 Posted January 15, 2014 I met someone for the first time at an event for a mutually shared interest. We enjoyed the event, skipped out on the rest of the group for a long dinner on our own, and then shared a ride home. We even had a nice kiss at the end. I tried to reach her a few times afterwards but didn't get a response. Based on the medium in which I was communicating, I know that she read my message almost immediately. After she didn't respond, I wrote her off thinking that she didn't consider it a match. These things happen and I totally understand that. Two weeks later I received an e-mail response saying that she was sorry it took her so long to respond but that she hoped to see me at the next group event. I know that she's been active in the interim with our shared group so she had time to respond before, but chose not to. How would you respond to her e-mail? I wouldn't respond. No one who is interested and not either using you as a backup or up to something weird will ignore you for two weeks then respond with "Sorry, but can I see you again?" I would be turned off as that is already starting on a bad foot. If they even came with some explanation more than just "Sorry I took so long", maybe I'd hear them out, but if they have no explanation, no. 2 weeks is a LONG time. Not answering the same day or even a couple of days (when I have seen that you've read it) is one thing, but 2 weeks is really above and beyond.
regine_phalange Posted January 15, 2014 Posted January 15, 2014 I'd take my time to respond, and my response would be "sure". I would be friendly if I saw her but wouldn't go on a date again though.
ExpatInItaly Posted January 15, 2014 Posted January 15, 2014 I wouldn't respond. What's the point? If she were interested, she wouldn't have waited so long. I think she feels bad about ignoring you and is trying to be friendly. It doesn't need a response.
EverLastluv Posted January 15, 2014 Posted January 15, 2014 looks like she is just looking for someone to date on her own time. If you have no problem going along with that go along with with it Or you can continue doing what u been doing..
Author Better Posted January 16, 2014 Author Posted January 16, 2014 Thank you, everyone. You pretty much confirmed that my plan to handle this was the right one so I'll move forward with it. I won't respond. When I run into her again, I'll pretend that nothing happened and chat up someone else. Life is too short to deal with people like this in the dating world. It's not enough to be hot. You also have to be a genuine, decent human being. 2
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