superb Posted January 15, 2014 Posted January 15, 2014 My boyfriend and I met online and talked as friends for a few months before things started to evolve. It began in August. We have a great friendship and connection....for the first time in a relationship sense I'd not felt more secure and content. We are/were in.constant communication everyday since August. He works in Ohio and we both live in Michigan so time together is limited but once feelings developed we committed to our relationship. I couldn't be happier..... But then... Sunday he started accusing me of things...being a liar, talking to men etc. Things I'd never do...ever. That fight escalated thru Monday and into yesterday morning but all in all ended in how we loved each other, apologies and so on. I am fairly positive that I'm the most serious/adult/woman he's been with and I knew his inexperience would have challenges but after all.his false accusations and mean things it got me thinking. I looked into his past yesterday and discovered the girl he had a relationship prior to me was very young....maybe 19. And also that she was on his real Facebook with friends and family.while I'm only on his recreation and gaming account. Anyway....I told him to add me or.it's over and asked him about the girl. At that point he'd said it wasn't her and that he lied. So he lied. Not me.... He then went on to delete both Facebook accounts and say we can talk on skype or phones...which is fine. He then went on to say he loves me...he's in love with me...he's going to love me forever but now suddenly distance is hurting him....and he broke up with me. I've text, called, nearly begged and pleaded but he's gone silent. I don't really have a question but I have no one to talk to really. I'm grown enough to know what's going on. I just wish this hadn't happened.
Mondmellonw Posted January 15, 2014 Posted January 15, 2014 He accused you of false stuff and haven't contacted you so far... You don't have to beg him for anything. He will think that his false accusations are true. And since (again) they're FALSE, he is the one who owes you an apologize. I suggest you to move on... He sounds unstable. 2
Philosoraptor Posted January 15, 2014 Posted January 15, 2014 People often make accusations on their partner of either things they've experienced in the past... or things they are guilty of themselves. Stay away from this immature coward. He's not worth your time, truly. 4
Author superb Posted January 15, 2014 Author Posted January 15, 2014 My logical side agrees.....it's emotionally that I'm having trouble. It's hard to go no contact on a person you care for and communicate with so much. I want answers but then I don't. I've been very much misled by him and I'm stunned.
Author superb Posted January 15, 2014 Author Posted January 15, 2014 And FTR....I've never in my life had problems with Facebook and a man until now. I'm not immature...his unwillingness to let me be part of his life while he's trying to control mine, speaks for itself. He wants pics of my work schedule...details about every part of my day etc....asks lots of questions himself about my past and men. Accused me of taking pictures with men even....and it was a picture of me and my grandmother. Yet I can't ask him about tons of women all over the world on his Facebook sending hearts and winky faces? I'm pissed. Today will be day #1 of no contact. I'm not letting him know how hurt I am anymore. Or giving the satisfaction that I still care. 1
Philosoraptor Posted January 15, 2014 Posted January 15, 2014 He's a classic controller. Wanting to have a grasp of your every detail while being unwilling to share his own. Trust your logical side. 3
Author superb Posted January 15, 2014 Author Posted January 15, 2014 He's a classic controller. Wanting to have a grasp of your every detail while being unwilling to share his own. Trust your logical side. That's what I'll do....thank you.
Author superb Posted January 20, 2014 Author Posted January 20, 2014 Since I posted this.. We've been on a roller coaster. He says his fears are too much for him to handle...hence the breakup. That he's still in love with me and will always be. I have tried to remove my own emotion from it and just told him I'm here and to take his time figuring things out. I don't really think he's hiding anything and I truly believe he does love me. Do men often get so scared of love that they do this?
flightplan Posted January 20, 2014 Posted January 20, 2014 I admit, I've never understood the attraction of social media and have never had any kind of account, so I'm coming at this from a different perspective... but I gotta say, after reading hundreds of BU stories... for the life of me, I cannot understand the attraction to FB and the added stress of a broken relationship. I don't mean to hijack this thread, but it seems a lot of issues could be avoided by simply avoiding social media apps altogether. Just saying...
Author superb Posted January 21, 2014 Author Posted January 21, 2014 I admit, I've never understood the attraction of social media and have never had any kind of account, so I'm coming at this from a different perspective... but I gotta say, after reading hundreds of BU stories... for the life of me, I cannot understand the attraction to FB and the added stress of a broken relationship. I don't mean to hijack this thread, but it seems a lot of issues could be avoided by simply avoiding social media apps altogether. Just saying... I agree with you 100% He deleted his Facebook (not because of me) and I'd do the same if he wanted.
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