I think i like my best friends bf.. i thought i loved mine.. i dunt no whut 2 think:S

[Emily55555]

I have been going out with my boyfriend for a month and a half. Hes great and can make me soo happy. Heres my problem my best friend and me started hanging around with these other guys at school. This one guy being very cute and hilarious and hes fun to be with. I never thought as him as more then a friend though... my best friend kind of liked him and he liked her too.... So they've been going out for 3 days now. So here I am so jealous of her, and I never thought I would be. I mean before this, i couldn't stop thinking about my bf and now its like im jealous over this guy who i never thought I had feelings for. Is this just a fase, will i go back to my bf and this will be just a supid thing. They were at my house3 nights ago sand i didnt have my bf with me who was supposed to come. but something else came up. They started making out and i all of a sudden had this really bad hurtful feeling that i never wanted to exist. My best friend goes to my school and her boyfriend too and they are aleays together holding hands and they look so happy. My boyfriend goes to a different school , I only get to see him about 1 or 2 times a week. He says he cares about me soo much... This is the third time we've gone out... thelast time was about a year ago. Before my best freind started dating him i really liked spending time with him. He has this crazy outgoing side to him. This side that my boyfriend doesnt have.... 1 week ago i almost felt in love with him and now im thinking about some one else. Im not going to try and steal him away from my best friend... I woiuld never do that to her. I just dont know why I feel this way becasue I really dont want to. It hurts and im going to end up hurting the people i care about most....

[LucreziaBorgia]

It sounds like you are jealous: but not over what you think. It sounds like you are jealous of your best friend's happiness with this guy. You want what she has, and the boyfriend is part of that. You want her happiness, not her man.

 

You want for your relationship what she has in hers: and you are mistaking that for thinking that if you just had her man, you'd be that happy too. It wouldn't take long to realize that the happiness he shares with her will not be the same when its with you. What a disappointment that would be: you'd lose your best friend, and you'd be stuck with a guy who didn't make you as happy as you thought he would.

 

I do know this: you aren't happy in your current relationship and you need to address that first. It sounds like the type of relationship you have isn't working for you, and you'll need to talk to your boyfriend about it. The fact that he goes to a different school and can't see you too often can't really be helped, so there won't be much you can do other than break it off and move on with someone who can give you the type of relationship you need. It won't do you or your boyfriend any good to stay in a relationship that doesn't make you very happy.