Spoonss Posted January 15, 2014 Posted January 15, 2014 I really want to meet up with my ex , its been over a half a year. I think its important for me to get closure fully. we dated for 5 years she left me. Ive asked her to meet but she said no. I just wish I could get some answers.
sw2020 Posted January 15, 2014 Posted January 15, 2014 Dude, as tough as it is, you're never going to get answers from your ex. No closure, nothing. A five year relationship is a long time. How are you finding moving forward?
Author Spoonss Posted January 15, 2014 Author Posted January 15, 2014 she left me for another guy they are still together. I feel like I never existed. she erased me from her life. we went from seeing each other every day to her just leaving and never contacting me again. It was so life shattering, it is really stopping me from getting close to anyone.
Author Spoonss Posted January 15, 2014 Author Posted January 15, 2014 also its been long enough that im over her, but not the relationship. would like to know how to move past that aspect.
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sw2020 Posted January 15, 2014 Posted January 15, 2014 Doesn't sound like you're over her. If she is with a new partner then you have to respect that. Time heals, but also being proactive will help. Have you considered going to speak with a counsellor?
mantlefan Posted January 15, 2014 Posted January 15, 2014 she left me for another guy they are still together. I feel like I never existed. she erased me from her life. we went from seeing each other every day to her just leaving and never contacting me again. It was so life shattering, it is really stopping me from getting close to anyone. Same thing for me, buddy. The best way to move on is to have her in your mind as little as possible. Meeting her will only create more questions for you to beat yourself up over.
Philosoraptor Posted January 15, 2014 Posted January 15, 2014 You're definitely not over her. And you'll never find closure from another person. It comes from within. The questions you need answers to are things like "why can't I let this go?", "where do I want to go from here?", "what can I do to bring happiness to my own life?". 3
mantlefan Posted January 15, 2014 Posted January 15, 2014 "why can't I let this go?", "where do I want to go from here?", "what can I do to bring happiness to my own life?". Hey OP, I will answer philosoraptor's GREAT questions to maybe help give you some perspective, since I think we are in a similar place: 1. Why can't I let this go? I tend to focus on the past and regret a lot. I also feel like if I had worked harder, I could have saved the relationship, since our fights had a lot to do, more or less, with me not figuring out what I wanted out of life. I also started to tie my happiness to being with her, and we had a physical relationship that attached me to her, and I thought it was never going to end, so in some ways I bet the farm. 2. Where do I want to go from here? I want to keep applying for jobs and take the first decent one offered to me. No matter where it is. It's best if I get out and start a new life, and take all I learned and how my fears affected the relationship into the next one. 3. What can I do to bring happiness to my own life? Finally get up the guts to put myself out there for scary but rewarding career opportunities. Reach out and become a better friend, son, and brother, after focusing on the relationship with my ex too much. And most importantly, focus on my faith life.
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