Confused much Posted January 15, 2014 Posted January 15, 2014 I'm in a situation that I cannot get my head around. It all started around 12 months ago... I'm a married man with kids. Six months prior to my dilemma a younger girl started working at my work. Shortly after she started I realized she was in a gay relationship with another gir for 3 yearsl. I quickly became good friends with her. Six months passed and it came out that she had feelings for me, roughly the same time I did as well for her. At this time my marriage was an unpleasant one, and her relationship was rocky as well. We came closer each day. It started with phone calls, texting etc then led into seeing one another before work, after work and every chance we had. Not long after this the unthinkable happened. Our feelings got the better of us and we started sleeping with one another on several occasions. Things died off a month or so after as a message was discovered on her phone. She got her relationship back on track slowly, mine hasn't gone anywhere good. I've fallen in love with her, and she knows this. She has also said that she still feels strong emotions for me too, yet she is happy in her relationship too. We still talk at work, on the phone occasionally, and still flirt like before. She always wants me to hang around and gets upset when I leave work and when I have days off. It's like she wants me just as bad. She knows if her gf finds out that we even look at one another it will be over for them, yet it doesn't seem to overly worry her. I try not to think too much about her but I literally spend every minute of the day thinking of her. And I feel that she does too. I'm confused as to what to think about the situation with her. She says she is happy in her relationship, but struggles to get through the day without me. We still flirt like mad, we still have the feelings, we only slept with each other about a month ago, so it's obvious she still has feelings for me. My marriage is all but over, my call. I know what we have done is absolutely wrong, so no need to state this, I feel so terrible for it. My feelings for her are so strong and I just don't know what is going on in her head. Can anyone enlighten me on anything I am missing? Help! Advice! Many thanks.
Snipercatt Posted January 15, 2014 Posted January 15, 2014 My feelings for her are so strong and I just don't know what is going on in her head. Yes you do. She says she is happy in her relationship, She has also said that she still feels strong emotions for me too, yet she is happy in her relationship too. She wants both, that's what's in her head. She told you so.
Nothisgirl Posted January 15, 2014 Posted January 15, 2014 Yes you do. She wants both, that's what's in her head. She told you so. Yes, exactly this. And, if you know your marriage is over (your words) please inform your wife..maybe if your ow sees your serious that will help her make a decision about where she is at Good luck
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