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...retracted troll food.... oopsie!

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OP, for what it's worth you sound like a genuinely good guy. I'm sure that will come across in whatever you suggest for the next date.

 

Thanks. I really like her a lot, and I think I'd be really happy just doing stuff that makes her happy. I'm not very good at this stuff, so I always fear I'll make some silly mistake or something.

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Thanks. I really like her a lot, and I think I'd be really happy just doing stuff that makes her happy. I'm not very good at this stuff, so I always fear I'll make some silly mistake or something.

 

Learn to laugh at yourself. It goes a long way. Good luck!

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Learn to laugh at yourself. It goes a long way. Good luck!

 

Thanks! We chatted quite a bit before meeting and have gotten along great so far. Part of the reason I like her is because I can be myself. I often worry that women will get turned off by my quirks, but she doesn't seem to mind. This is the most promising start with anyone so far, so I hope it goes somewhere.

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Don't date until you have a place of your own. No roommates.

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He's in grad school. That's unreasonable. Almost everyone has roommates when you're a student.

 

My advice: stop using the common area as a dumping ground for unwanted furniture and fix it up. You need to be able to invite someone over without worrying and wringing your hands...especially if you want a social life that includes the opposite gender.

 

It's definitely not okay to invite her over for dinner and the only seating option is your bed or in your bedroom. Why don't you take her out for a picnic instead? It's different, it's thoughtful, and it gives you an opportunity to prepare something for her.

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Don't date until you have a place of your own. No roommates.

 

Dude! Do you know how HARD that is in some places?? I live in London. At this particular moment, none of my friends live on their own. Everyone has housemates. And almost all of my friends are in their 30's and work. "How many people do you live with?" is a common question here in London, when you're dating!

 

As for the topic in question, I agree with a lot of the previous posters that OP should save the cooked dinner for a later time.

 

I too equate that to sex. I have dumped a guy for suggesting exactly that. Well... he even wanted our FIRST EVER DATE (and first time meeting) to be at his house, which I politely declined. Then follow up for second date? BAM, dinner at his house. Never bothered replying.

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