Chateau Posted January 11, 2005 Posted January 11, 2005 So here's my situation... There was a girl I use to work with who previously liked me. We'll call her "Lois". She thought I was really cute, or at least that's what her friend told me she said. We hung out a few times, and I had a good time, but for some reason I never really felt interested in that way. We still flirted continuosly and messed around, but never kissed or anything. She also started to hangout a couple times with a friend of mine and fellow coworker "Bob" - a guy I'd known for years. Anyway, she went on vacation for a week and of course that's when I realized how much I liked her, when she wasn't around. Well when she got back, her attitude was different. She didn't flirt or act sweet and say cute things. She was all attitude and acting tough, just as she usually did with everyone else. A few weeks later she switched jobs, but we kept in touch and hung out occasionally. One night I went out to a bar with "Lois", her friend, my friend I worked with - "Bob", and a couple others. Well, the girl started to play around with "Bob" all night, hanging onto him and just generally being around him as much as possible. She hung around me some, but when she seemed nervous and would say cute things like "I'm really glad you came", etc. Anyway, she kind of ditched her friend to hang onto "Bob", so her friend and I started talking. We were hitting it off good, and her bf had just broke up with her recently because she wasn't giving effort. Anyway, as she's drinking, she starts dancing. Soon she's freak dancing me and grinding me, etc. She also kept leaning in close to me when talking to me, so I finally kissed her, and we both got into it. We also later made out again and this time it went for awhile, with her again into as much as I was. Then, immediatly after this, she askes me if I liked "Lois". I was like wtfffffffffffff?!? I said, "A bit when we first met, but i think we decided to be friends - plus she's into "Bob" or so it seemed". Well anyway, as everyone was leaving, I said don't I get a hug goodbye, and I meant from "Lois", but her friend hugs and kisses me, and I said what about you "Lois", and she turns, gives me this pissed off / annoyed/ hurt look and a hug and kiss. I later found that after all that attention she gave to "Bob", she only gave him a kiss on the cheek. "Lois" won't talk to me now, as I've called numerous times and even left a msg or two. My main question is, is she just angry because I made out with her friend, or is she angry/ hurt beause SHE STILL LIKED ME and I made out with friend?
Mr Spock Posted January 11, 2005 Posted January 11, 2005 Because she's retarded and trying to find out which guy her friends think is the better catch, and you didn't play into her power trip by competing with Bob? THEN you made out with her friend, which only served to unseat what she thought was her prowress over you. Bob was more than likely a distraction. If you really like her, don't make out with any more of her friends. And don't call to apologise for HER sending mixed signals. Tell her flat out that if she is interested to let you know and cut with the games.
Hund1976 Posted January 11, 2005 Posted January 11, 2005 I agree with the last post. She was just being flaky trying to make you chase her around. Don't play into those games, if you like her tell her so and then leave the ball in her court. If she wants to flirt with other guys in front of you to try to make you jealous or something like that, then you need to move on.
allina Posted January 11, 2005 Posted January 11, 2005 Seems like you weren't that in to her and she wasn't that in to you, but you both enjoyed the fact someone was flirting with you and giving you attention. Now it seems she's feeling a little "butt hurt" =) But what are your intentions? What do you want from this? Do you just want her to not be mad at you and talk to you or what?
Author Chateau Posted January 11, 2005 Author Posted January 11, 2005 I want to at least be friends with her still because she is a really cool girl and fun to hang out with. She's into a lot of guy things, so that makes it more enjoyable. As far as more than friends, I'm not entirely sure. I did finally ask her at one point about a month before this all happened if she still liked me or not. She was obviously put on the spot and responded nervously "I don't know".
kypepeo Posted January 12, 2005 Posted January 12, 2005 Thing is, she wanted you and that's why she used to flirt with you.hen you didn't do anything about it, she thought you weren't interested and stopped. To make you mad and get back at you, she flirted with Bob but she wasn't feeling him. You messed around with her pal and that hurt her so ofcourse she stopped talking to you. There's no way you two can be just friends at this point, maybe after some time.What you need to do is dcide whether you want to be with her. If you do, go tell her how you feel and she'll probably forget about the past and be ready to try it out. If not, forget about her and leave her alone. It's just a case of you men not being able to read women and women no tbeing able to step to men and say what they really want
tanbark813 Posted January 14, 2005 Posted January 14, 2005 I disagree with the other posters. I don't think she ever really wanted you. She just liked the attention she was getting from you. She was only upset because you were giving attention to some other girl that night. If you want to remain friends with "Lois" then that's cool, but don't count on being able to hook up with her.
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