sickoflove11 Posted January 15, 2014 Posted January 15, 2014 Now the dreams are beginning.. So this is bizarre.. I always have crazy dreams like they could be from a movie or another planet. And today I took a nap, didn't think I was thinking of my ex at all, it's been a pretty good day as far as getting over him. But I had this dream that he was with this girl that in real life, tagged him in a picture New Years Eve. I don't know the girl at all but they were together in my dream like dating, in a relationship. I saw pictures of them kissing and cuddling and just sappy relationship stuff. I was bawling in the dream thinking how could he have moved on so quick and started this relationship that he is so involved in? In real life we saw each other over Thanksgiving and talked around Christmas time. I know he wasn't in a relationship so in my dream it was so crazy to me and I felt so real. Usually when I cry in my dreams I actually wake up crying.. I know kinda weird. But this time I woke up and was not crying.. Even though in my dream I was uncontrollably crying. I just thought id share this and see if anyone has any thoughts, advice, or anything. It made me feel strange, like I really missed him but am glad that even if he's with someone else, I didn't actually have to see those things cause it hurt so much to see even in a dream.
Itspointless Posted January 15, 2014 Posted January 15, 2014 It is your fear seeing him with another girl. At the same time you see confirmed what your heart and mind already came used to and are starting to accept: your reality. Not saying that you like this reality, but It probably would be more of a shock if he came back for you. Therefor your gladness, this image fits your reality as it is. Knowing this gives stabilty to your world, perhaps not the stability you want, but still stability. 1
Author sickoflove11 Posted January 15, 2014 Author Posted January 15, 2014 So do you think this is just part of me moving on? I'm not sure if I should be worried, how will these dreams stop, will it just take time like everything else? I am afraid of seeing him with another girl, that's why I stay off social media as much as possible but in my dream he sent me a picture of them together which of course he would never actually do. And you are right it would be a shock if he came back for me because I am trying to be realistic but these dreams aren't helping. I just had one last night where he said he still loves me but I know he doesn't and that's fine because I don't want him back and I want to move on. I feel like I'm being tested. It's hard enough when I'm awake to not think about him.
Itspointless Posted January 15, 2014 Posted January 15, 2014 I think so yes. Often our feelings conflict each-other. You say you want to move on and therefore you will but it takes time. Also don't force your heard to follow your head at the same pace. It is important to give credit to those different voices and emotions within you, see and accept them for what they are. In other words try not to avoid your fears and emotions. That is something different than hurting yourself on purpose.
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