I Need some perspective in this situation. Its simple/complicated.

[TaraMaiden]

First a remark: can you please start your sentences with a capital letter on the first and in general write clearer sentences. It is very difficult to understand what you write as your sentences are not grammatically correct which makes it really hard to understand them.

 

Now about the whole situation. Why do you want to be with a woman who treats her man like *****? If she treats him like that, she will treat you like that as well. Take a deep and long look at yourself. Are you sure that you don't have a preference for women who are not available?

 

The only healthy thing to do is to cut all contact with her. She is not available AND she is not faithful. That should tell you all you need to know.

 

Actually...She IS available.

He said so in his last post.

 

As to the rest of it however.....

 

Yup.

[chrisftw]

she may have gone about this situation incorrectly. with cheating on him with me while they were engaged. But she ended that. and like i said it wasn't because of me. it was a mounting list of things she didn't like.

 

and now he's gone full blown stalker on her. driving around town looking for her. showing up in places me and her are at. calling her 9 times in a row when he stalked out where i live.

 

this man she was with... was not going to be her one. and she takes a lot of the blame for the relationship even progressing as far as it did. her heart was never in it 100%.

 

I am a firm believer you can't take something that doesn't want to be taken. so yes I am keeping my options open with her. but she isn't my world or anything. at least not until she fixes herself.