ldrgirl000 Posted January 15, 2014 Posted January 15, 2014 Here is the story: We were members of a popular dating forum in my native language and we commented on a same topic. He 'likes' my comments, i like his. Then he sent me a private message. We chat back and forth for a few days, he said I could help him with some dating advices. We found out that we have a lot in common so he decided to show me his Facebook. He probably wants to show that he is trustworthy and not creepy. And actually, we have friends in common, he's been to many countries and places I've been too as well. One of his friend is actually my ex's work colleague. Damn small world. He asked me to show him my Facebook but I haven't yet. I would love to meet him but he knows a lot about me before even meet me. He probably read all my posts abt sex, ex bf and family problems. He would know things that I have never told anybody before. I would be facing a stranger that sees right through me. What should I do? He hasn't ask to meet me in real life but I am sure he will once he sees my Facebook. I never reply private message in forum b4 to avoid creepy dudes. I never had the intention to meet guys online. And now, I am so curious about this guy in real life. Thank you guys!
Trnamakesnse Posted January 15, 2014 Posted January 15, 2014 If he already knows about those things then they probably aren't worrying him too much. As for whether he will actually want to meet is harder to say, he might. Might be he found a friend, can't say.
devilish innocent Posted January 15, 2014 Posted January 15, 2014 I don't think you have much to lose. So what if he already knows about some of your personal stuff? It doesn't seem to be bothering him. I know people who met on on-line forums where they shared personal information about themselves who are now married to each other. Worst case scenario if you don't like him in real life, you don't have to keep speaking to him in real life. I would give it a shot if you're feeling curious.
Secret Advisor Posted January 15, 2014 Posted January 15, 2014 You couldn't have found a better match!
EmilyJane Posted January 15, 2014 Posted January 15, 2014 Why is he asking you for dating advice if he's interested in you romantically is what I want to know. That's usually what I do to guys to put them firmly in the friendzone. Everyone know it ain't cool to talk about other people in front of someone you like.
d0nnivain Posted January 15, 2014 Posted January 15, 2014 Why do you think you are even on your EXBF's work colleague's radar? That is too tenuous a connection. There is no reason to believe that just because that person is FB friends with this new guy you met that that talk about you. How do you even know they met IRL? At the very least you should learn from this. Don't post intimate details on your FB page. A good rule of thumb is don't post things that you wouldn't want to read in the paper about yourself. Clean up your page as best you can. Meet this guy IRL & go forward.
Author ldrgirl000 Posted January 16, 2014 Author Posted January 16, 2014 EmilyJane: yeah, he said that at first when he messaged me. but then he kinda cares about me. And he started to show me his facebook, ask for my phone number…saying hello every morning, lunch time, good night, asking what I'm doing Why do you think you are even on your EXBF's work colleague's radar? That is too tenuous a connection. There is no reason to believe that just because that person is FB friends with this new guy you met that that talk about you. How do you even know they met IRL? At the very least you should learn from this. Don't post intimate details on your FB page. A good rule of thumb is don't post things that you wouldn't want to read in the paper about yourself. Clean up your page as best you can. Meet this guy IRL & go forward. I am for sure not an EMO on facebook. I have nothing on my facebook but some silly things from 9gag, cover photo…I share photos with my close friends only. But it's crazy how we have so much in common. We even have the same family and and the First letter of name. I even told him to check his family tree whether we are related like far far cousins or something. So I am so curious about him, to meet him in person to lower my expectation or have a better judgement.
gaius Posted January 16, 2014 Posted January 16, 2014 You would be nuts to throw away the golden opportunity that fell right in your lap.
Author ldrgirl000 Posted January 19, 2014 Author Posted January 19, 2014 Until now, we havent met yet. He texts me every night and we talk a bit about casual things. I know his face, he hasn't seen my Facebook. He asked to talk to me on the phone, but I hesitated. I am not used to meeting people online at all but its nice that he is super calm and patient.
FitChick Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 If he doesn't know what you look like yet, I wouldn't make any plans one way or the other. Once he sees you, if he's interested, he will ask to meet. 1
Frank2thepoint Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 You have nothing to lose by meeting him. As others have mentioned, he already knows a lot about you based on your posts. If he still wants to get to know you, then he is being genuine. But, do not link him in Facebook. Just don't go down that road. Keep that personal.
abby_tx Posted January 19, 2014 Posted January 19, 2014 Meet him! If he is safe and trustworthy, you have nothing to lose!
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