winny Posted January 14, 2014 Posted January 14, 2014 Met this guy online last week. He chatted with me briefly and added me to Facebook. Then on the weekend he asked me out. I said okay. Yesterday he asked for this Wednesday and I agreed. Today I messaged him on Facebook to confirm time and place and he replied that he needs to slow down a bit, since I am the first girl he will be meeting this way. He is feeling bit uncomfortable and he has some other tasks also this week. He would like us to know each other first through Facebook. He just wants to chill for a while and be friends. So I replied - Ok whatever works, let me know. And next time first think and then ask So what do you guys think... should I be friends first? Or I was just friend zoned by him? If he tried to talk to me again, should I give him a chance? Thoughts? He seems like a decent person from his Facebook profile. Apart from that I don't really really like him... but he seemed good enough for a meeting till he did this... Now am confused...
FitChick Posted January 14, 2014 Posted January 14, 2014 He probably spoke to friends who warned him you'd be fat or ugly or crazy. Meet other people. If at some point he asks you out again, go.
Frank2thepoint Posted January 14, 2014 Posted January 14, 2014 Why did you friend him on Facebook? I understand it is the modern thing to do, but what message are you sending if you are Facebook friends? As for sudden change of heart, do you have photos shared on Facebook? Maybe he saw something that he didn't like. And yes he sounds like he just friendzoned you. 1
Fondue Posted January 14, 2014 Posted January 14, 2014 Why did you friend him on Facebook? I understand it is the modern thing to do, but what message are you sending if you are Facebook friends? As for sudden change of heart, do you have photos shared on Facebook? Maybe he saw something that he didn't like. And yes he sounds like he just friendzoned you. Have to agree here. He might have seen something that he didn't like. Might not have been a picture, but maybe a post? A comment? Maybe something said by you, or your friends? FB is a bit dangerous that way. It also can give off unwanted or unintentional things. I was very happy when I deactivated mine many months ago. Feels good, ma'am.
Author winny Posted January 14, 2014 Author Posted January 14, 2014 Oh I have a very clean profile n I hardly use it. Just has pics from my various travels... I know I shouldn't have added him but there isn't anything on it... All I post is nice quotes n funny videos sometimes.... Anyhow I guess u people r right about the friend zone though....
RedRobin Posted January 14, 2014 Posted January 14, 2014 Maybe he just prefers to go slow. *shrug* People worry way too much about the so called 'friendzone'
sagetalk Posted January 15, 2014 Posted January 15, 2014 No big deal, just keep looking. If he comes around, he comes around. If not, you haven't rally invested anything anyway.
Author winny Posted January 15, 2014 Author Posted January 15, 2014 No big deal, just keep looking. If he comes around, he comes around. If not, you haven't rally invested anything anyway. Thanks! I know :-)
deathandtaxes Posted January 15, 2014 Posted January 15, 2014 He reconsidered. Cut him loose this early and be done.
SJC2008 Posted January 15, 2014 Posted January 15, 2014 You haven't even met him and yall are FB friends. You like his profile but really don't like him but are concerned whether he's friendzoned you?? Wowza!!!
Keenly Posted January 15, 2014 Posted January 15, 2014 He reconsidered. Cut him loose this early and be done. Its been a week. Seriously ? Less than 10 days and he is skeptical. Shouldnt we ALL be ?
Author winny Posted January 15, 2014 Author Posted January 15, 2014 You haven't even met him and yall are FB friends. You like his profile but really don't like him but are concerned whether he's friendzoned you?? Wowza!!! Yes because I don't want him to be in my friends list if I am not going to use it as a medium in getting to know him. You are right though that I shouldn't have added him to fb but at that time I felt it will be easier to know him n see if he is genuine...
Author winny Posted January 15, 2014 Author Posted January 15, 2014 Its been a week. Seriously ? Less than 10 days and he is skeptical. Shouldnt we ALL be ? Yes.. We should be.. But I don't feel it has something to do with my profile on fb. Also I went back n checked in his profile on the OLD site he has mentioned that he is hesitant to meet in person.
Smthn_Like_Olivia Posted January 15, 2014 Posted January 15, 2014 If he is hesitant to meet in person, then he shouldn't be dating. I wouldn't waste anymore time with this guy. I would move on. And I agree with the others about Facebook. Facebook is a private window into my world and I don't need internet strangers looking in my window. I only add people that I KNOW, in person, and am still picky about some of those. I keep everything private to outsiders. 4
nomadic_butterfly Posted January 15, 2014 Posted January 15, 2014 If he is hesitant to meet in person, then he shouldn't be dating. I wouldn't waste anymore time with this guy. I would move on. And I agree with the others about Facebook. Facebook is a private window into my world and I don't need internet strangers looking in my window. I only add people that I KNOW, in person, and am still picky about some of those. I keep everything private to outsiders. Exactly! So glad I deactivated mine almost 2yrs ago. Everyone at my job including my boss wants me to add me. LIKE NO!! I want to post private things that I may not want the WORLD seeing. Facebook is the only place I can be uninhibited and unfiltered. I don't like adding strangers to the mix AT ALL. Especially if they'll know where I live, work, go out, etc. I need time to evaluate before letting you in and if you work with me FORGET IT. OP this guy sounds flaky so why bother perplex your brain about it. Carry on with business as usual and meet other suitors. If you'd feel awkward deleting him if by chance he was "telling the truth and still interested" maybe limit what he can see in the mean time. 1
Author winny Posted January 15, 2014 Author Posted January 15, 2014 Thanks guys... I know you all have valid points. I have already moved on I don't post lot of stuff and also most of my albums are visible only to me... LOL... So there is nothing to worry from that perspective.... I will just leave him there for a week... and then remove him...
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