firefly2613 Posted January 14, 2014 Posted January 14, 2014 Not going to get into my situation again, but it's just been hard today. Sometimes I still can't believe she's gone. I always imagined that if we did end, it would be much different. I saw the guy she left me for today. We all go to the same college. For a little while, I got the urge to watch him. Thankfully I decided that would not be good and went to class. She finally posted something new on Reddit. I couldn't help it, I looked (but at least I avoid Facebook). There was a new comment where she said they met on August 15th, got engaged on November 1, and married on December 5th. I knew most of that already, she told me the day she met him. I remember because that was the night she got drunk at a party and he helped her home. That was the night where, before the party, she thought I was breaking up with her. Anyways, I knew all that but we broke up on September 18th. So when she tells people their story it's like I never existed, like I was never there. Maybe he really is the love of her life like she says, but why did she have to lie and treat me so coldly?
JDPT Posted January 14, 2014 Posted January 14, 2014 Sounds to me like they already started off on a bad start. But that's irrelevant to you at this point. You must quiet e-stalking at once, do this for your own sake, it's time to start protecting yourself. She is no longer someone you need to worry about. Stay focus on you and continue to improve yourself. Propel yourself forward day in and day out, you will make it out of this. 2
flightplan Posted January 14, 2014 Posted January 14, 2014 That sucks and I feel for you. Trust me my friend, I've been around a few years and going from meeting to marrying in such a short amount of time is a recipe for failure. It won't be pretty in a matter of months before they start going at each other. Won't be long before she's just as miserable as you are right now. 2
Author firefly2613 Posted January 14, 2014 Author Posted January 14, 2014 Sounds to me like they already started off on a bad start. But that's irrelevant to you at this point. You must quiet e-stalking at once, do this for your own sake, it's time to start protecting yourself. She is no longer someone you need to worry about. Stay focus on you and continue to improve yourself. Propel yourself forward day in and day out, you will make it out of this. I can tell I've gotten better. I guess all that's left now is the bruised ego and the slightly broken heart. Fortunately for me, she updates Facebook all the time with how happy she is, so I'm glad I was able to give that horrible site up. But I will do better in the future about checking her other online accounts.
Gerrykins Posted January 15, 2014 Posted January 15, 2014 If there were night or day, how would we appreciate the difference? It's the same with love and pain. 1
mendsley Posted January 15, 2014 Posted January 15, 2014 Sorry you're dealing with this brotha! I know you've heard this shït a thousand times, but it will get easier. My ex left me back in October and I had my ups and downs, sometimes REALLY bad downs. But, one day I woke up and decided to actively eliminate that bïtch from my life. Example; I knew she drove a Jeep, so every god damn Jeep I saw I was fixated on who was driving it. One day I decided to fight the urge to look. When I saw a Jeep I worked at not caring who was driving. Another example; her and I had some of the same friends, as hard as it was I kicked them peeps to the curb. Doing that helped me out DRAMATICALLY! One thing I can say is I learned that being with someone made me happy, hate to admit it, but it's true. So I decided to start seeing some people, and you know what? I met someone who is 100 times better than my ex. It's fûcking crazy how I went from her consuming my every thought to this new woman and I having so much fun together (not sexual) that the ex is just another memory that I can dispose of at my will. YOU HAVE TO WORK AT IT! Do not let the emotions just ride out! Exercise, build up your broke down confidence and you will be amazed with the results. Peace, Mike 2
JDPT Posted January 15, 2014 Posted January 15, 2014 I can tell I've gotten better. I guess all that's left now is the bruised ego and the slightly broken heart. Fortunately for me, she updates Facebook all the time with how happy she is, so I'm glad I was able to give that horrible site up. But I will do better in the future about checking her other online accounts. You will realize that checking up on her only leads to heartache. It will reach a poking that you will only think about yourself will understand that you are all that matters.
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