haven't quite accepted that I'll probably never hear from her again.

[btvdts]

I'm closing on 3 months bu. I've come quite a long way since then. I have been sleeping normally, but once in a while I'll still wake up thinking about her. I've lost about 25 pounds from a combo of working out and at first not eating right.i have not made any attempts to contact her since the bu and haven't stalked her or anything on social media. I have made some new friends in the area that I moved to since the bu, and I'm starting college again. although I'm happy most of the time, I still feel sad the way things ended. I think the reasons she broke up with me were excuses really for her to dump me. we were together 2 years but only saw each other on weekends, except that last 2 months when I moved in with her. so I guess before the move in we were still in the honeymoon phase. what saddens me is that I went from having my own place to sharing it with her and her two kids which took a lot of adjustment and sacrifice on my own side, yet when things were getting just a bit tough, she bailed. well more like kicked me to the curb. she has a lot of health issues, and I always wonder if she's doing ok . She has brain tumors so I'm always wondering how she's doing.its a bummer that she was willing to just throw us away for someone else. I really hope someday I can be her friend Bc up till the end, she was amazing. it's funny you think you are worth it to them, and turns out you are wrong.

[jphcbpa]

you seem to be progressing well and very proud of you regarding the NC. Big stuff right there.

 

keep moving forward as if you will never see or hear from her again. proceed in that direction by taking care of you.

[flightplan]

I totally identify with your situation. I'm almost nearing 3 months, but because of the progress I made, I don't want to hear from her right now. I too would eventually like to remain friends, but I need time to detach before ever approaching that idea with her. I have no idea what my ex is thinking right now. I have no clue if she even thinks of me and if she does, what does she think about. I'm just going to assume I will never hear from her again and move on with my life. I don't think we should allow ourselves to obsess over whether they will or not.

[rosedl]

You are handling yourself beautifully. Well done.

 

It is incredibly painful to be excised from the life of someone you love and kept on the outside. I haven't done nearly as well with my break up. I wish I could leave town, he lives two blocks away from me.

 

I need to move on with my life but I am in a holding pattern being bedridden and sick. And, sans car for a few weeks.

 

I had signed up to join Crossfit and I was going to go on a road trip. But, I got pneumonia and bronchitis and flu. It will probably be March before I am really back on my feet again. Well, Spring is the next season. C'mon spring.

 

Well played, sir!