Kate2906 Posted January 14, 2014 Posted January 14, 2014 (edited) Hi, I need your advice to understand . I went out for a "date" with a guy I recently met. I think we had fun together each date lasted around 4 hours which is pretty unusual. 2 days after our last date he called me, told me it would be nice to repeat our date - I did not manage to confirm, as next he told me that the day after we had our second "date" he went to the party and got drunk, and picked up the girl his friend was intrested in. It does not make any sense for me. I will add the guy is over 30 years old. Could you please help me to understand? Many thanks in advance Ps. I am sorry if my English is not perfect, but i am not a native speaker Edited January 14, 2014 by Kate2906
d0nnivain Posted January 14, 2014 Posted January 14, 2014 You are not exclusive. He went out & met another woman. You can continue to date him if you like but until you have a talk where you both agree that you are exclusive, you should assume he's seeing other people. It doesn't mean he doesn't like you; it may mean he thinks you don't like him because you hesitated when he asked you on the date.
Frank2thepoint Posted January 14, 2014 Posted January 14, 2014 Exactly what d0nnivain said. Since you hesitated for a second date, he took it as a sign that you were not interested in him. The other thing now is, since he told you he picked up another girl, he has no interest in you as well. Unless you just want to stay friends with him, there is no point in pursuing this guy.
Author Kate2906 Posted January 14, 2014 Author Posted January 14, 2014 (edited) Yes I Know i know that he has right to date other girls. I date other men too. Totally understandable. I do not call him , i do not send smses to him, just waiting what will happen. It was him to call me and tell me it would be nice to go out together again, however mentioned the espisode with the girl. This is what i do not understand, why he told me this and at the same time wants to meet me again as it does not make sense to me. And i did not hesitated when he asked me for third date , I just did not have chance to asnwer to him - it was on the same phone call. Just would like to hear your opinion Edited January 14, 2014 by Kate2906
d0nnivain Posted January 14, 2014 Posted January 14, 2014 If you have never reached out for him, he's convinced you are not interested. Call him if you like him.
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