Oomlotte Posted January 14, 2014 Posted January 14, 2014 I saw a guy for six months - not a long time, I know, but I went bat ****. I was really into him and wanted him to want me and, well, I'm sure you know. We were on and off and he was very obtuse - He rejected my attempts to end things because I felt he wasn't that interested but given extra chances he appeared disinterested. Anyway we had a bad weekend - he essentially stood me up - and I told him off a bit (not really harsh but swearing which is not me). Anyway - I regret losing my cool and, while I feel this could look crazy or pathetic or both - I just feel like I want to send him a text or meet or something and say sorry for being harsh and that I didn't want that to be our last interaction - like could it be something positive like this convo? I don't know. I know it's silly but is it so bad? What do I care what he thinks - it's for me. I want to end things on my terms. I'd like to explain my feelings because I want him to know. Is this a bad idea?
Zahara Posted January 14, 2014 Posted January 14, 2014 Really. A guy that has shown you disinterest and has stood you up and you want to be nicey nice and explain why you were upset and hopefully you both can end on nicer terms? The only reason you want to do this is so that maybe you'll get back in his good graces and you both can start back where you left off. Where you said you wanted him to want you, you're doing it again.
mammasita Posted January 14, 2014 Posted January 14, 2014 If he hasn't reached out to you since you last spoke - leave it be. If he reaches out, then feel free to apologize. It's not wrong to seek closure, but you won't get it from him - it has to come from YOU. You have to accept what happened on your own and move on. 2
JDPT Posted January 14, 2014 Posted January 14, 2014 There is no such thing as closure. You simply come to terms with reality, internalize it and learn form it in order to improve yourself. 3
d0nnivain Posted January 14, 2014 Posted January 14, 2014 It's not wrong. If it will help you, do it but understand that it won't mean anything to him & some people will say that this gives him all sorts of power over you.
pickflicker Posted January 14, 2014 Posted January 14, 2014 He stood you up and you want to apologise for busting his chops about it? Hell no! He disrespects you because you display weak character. Standing someone up, in the age of mobile phones and instant communication, is unacceptable unless you're unconscious or dead. You don't need closure, he's a jerk and you're being weak. Move along...
Chi townD Posted January 14, 2014 Posted January 14, 2014 Nah, just let it go. You were angry at the time and you had every right to tell him off. And deep down, he knows it. 1
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