kind of long distance?!

[YesMan87]

I live in northern Jersey and she lives in Staten Island. It's a good hour apart. not that big a deal, right? I'm kind of split on this though.

 

We started talking via a dating website, spoke over the phone a couple times and decided to meet in Manhattan this past Sunday. We met in Greenwich Villiage and basically spent the day together. First we had tea someplace, then walked around Washington Square park and watched a street acrobatic show, then had a glass of wine, then had sushi, then another glass of wine while we watched a flamenco show in a small intimate candle lit place. We clicked and had fun.

 

Now, from her place she takes the bus to get to manhattan, where she happens to work also, but it takes her 40 mins she sais. It takes me around that too, plus parking is difficult.

 

We are definitely into each other but part of me says it's kind of a hassle. What would you do? Pursue or don't waste your time?

 

I realize taking a chance is necessary lots of times, esp in dating, but I also believe I can date someone that is easier to have access to. What will happen down the line if we decide to stay together? An hour to see each other is ehh, no what I mean?

 

Please share your thoughts...thanks in advance

[HeavenOrHell]

My partner is worth travelling 10-11 hours for, so yes he'd be worth traveling 40 mins to an hour for.

If you're questioning if that short distance is worth it, then I'd say no it's probably not worth it for you.

[Zahara]

It's much easier to travel than it is to find someone that you find can click with.

 

But if there's a dime a dozen out there, then sure, find someone that you have "easier access" to. Personally, if I liked a guy, an hour would be worth it.

[chelsea2011]

Give it a shot before giving up. You never know where it will lead you.

 

Good luck! I hope it works out for you.

[d0nnivain]

What about meeting in Middlesex County?

 

 

Staten Island to NJ isn't that bad.

 

 

Also try parking in NJ & taking mass transit to NYC; solves your parking hassles.

[justwhoiam]

This is hilarius

 

Well, tell her you can't bother with a 40-minute trip to meet her. You could start walking around your block to see if there are any single women your age living there who can be attractive to you. If the search is negative, you start expanding the area.

[YesMan87]

You all are right. What was I thinking. I mean, WE CLICKED! I think it was just fear that arose within me in regards to pursuing this. It's not that bad at all. Actually, come to think of it, I can look at the positive side to it in that we can still have our independence and grow as individuals as well as we date.

 

I'm going for it without looking back!!! Thanks ppl!

[HeavenOrHell]

I don't think this thread is serious.

 

 

This is hilarius

 

Well, tell her you can't bother with a 40-minute trip to meet her. You could start walking around your block to see if there are any single women your age living there who can be attractive to you. If the search is negative, you start expanding the area.

[YesMan87]

ok sheesh! I was hoping to be able and come one here and post exactly how I feel without being judged. I didn't mean to offend anyone, as I'm sure most of you are in (real) long distance relationships, but remember...we each have our own unique priorities and preferences when it comes to relationships. For example, some people only date others who earn a certain amount of money. I just happened to be caught up on wanting someone whom I can see on a whim if I'm swinging by the neighborhood.

 

Like I said, I decided to go for it because I really like her and we seem to have chemistry. It will obviously take some adjustment, as any relationship has it's "things", but it's nothing I can't handle.

 

Sorry if my brief nitpick contemplation seemed humorous or not serious to you. I am indeed thankful to your replies

Edited January 17, 2014 by YesMan87