Walked up to EX GF

[demapples5]

Long story short , dated thi girl for a year and a half

 

me being the not so *best* boyfriend got her fed up and left me, we both made errors but i can see now why , as first i was oblivious to why she ended it.

 

Now during post break up she rebounded felt sorry after 4 months didnt want her back at all, then another 3 months later i denied her again cuse i was just so fed up with her not knowing what she wanted

 

 

Now some another 6 months have passed complete NC , untill my bday happened and she well texted happy bday, wasnt really surprised but didnt answer to her text either.

 

Now right before christmas me and a pall did some christmas shopping for the family and we both live in diffrent towns and as usual he passes the bus stop where she waits for the bus and well 2 days later he tells me she asked him how i was doing and if i was seeing anybody,

 

At first i was like really, again? another attempt but their has been some change latetly i'm not mad at her anymore, and i cant seem to get her of my mind anymore no matter what i do, gym , running , gaming , hanging out whatever you name it, shes always somewhere in my head.

 

Now we had a school party and i was in a good mood honestly had alot of fun and i saw her walking past us waiting for her mom to pick her up , and i saw her standing alone, so i walked up to her thanked her for wishing me a happy bday , and the reaction from her just made my mind go poof she like smiled and pulled her leg up the typical thing she does when shes happy, but it was so aswkard i just said bye and walked off to my friends.

 

 

Now it was getting late and i was staying at a friends place because it was getting late at the party , when suddently i get a text 18 january from obviously my ex , and suddently i realised i almost forget her bday last year , and i replied ''i'll try not to forget this time'' and she replied doesn't matter, it's not that important (: and i never responded to that text , wich was like 3 days ago.

 

Any advice , i kinda wanna make things up again maybe not reconcile but atleast remove that awkard barrier whenever i run into her at school

[xUnknown]

My motto is.... It's not awkward unless you make it awkward.

 

Think about it. If you don't make it awkward for you, then its on the other persons end. So, you do what you want to do, be casual. Because no matter what, if you're yourself, do what is on your mind, be cordial, (anything that wouldn't put YOU in that awkward spot), then that's all that matters. She'll see that you're being the mature one. She may feel awkward, but that is HER problem, not yours. There are awkward moments because the individual is not comfortable in a situation. If you make yourself comfortable by doing/saying whatever, then that is all that matters.

[demapples5]

My motto is.... It's not awkward unless you make it awkward.

 

Think about it. If you don't make it awkward for you, then its on the other persons end. So, you do what you want to do, be casual. Because no matter what, if you're yourself, do what is on your mind, be cordial, (anything that wouldn't put YOU in that awkward spot), then that's all that matters. She'll see that you're being the mature one. She may feel awkward, but that is HER problem, not yours. There are awkward moments because the individual is not comfortable in a situation. If you make yourself comfortable by doing/saying whatever, then that is all that matters.

 

Like i have no idea what to do at this point, i understand what you were saying here but still any advice on what to do , i kinda feel like waiting till her birthday to say anything and see where it goes

[VeronicaRoss]

Why is it you just can't be honest and open with her about what you think and feel? Something is off that you're hedging your bets like this. Something is either missing in your maturity at this point, or your relationship with her. You might want to talk with someone you know and trust in your life to figure that out first before you talk with her.

 

Honestly that's all relationships are: telling someone what you feel or want, listening to their response, respecting it's true for them and acting accordingly based on what you believe, feel and want. For the rest of your life. So practice now.

 

"We broke up but I still think about you and believe we can do [whatever it was that broke you up] differently to make this work. I'm up for it. I'd like to try again, and you seem like you might still be interested too. Are you?" Then listen to her. And respect whatever her opinion is. If she says no then say "OK, I'm disappointed but I can respect your point of view. Take care of yourself and see you around."

 

Your honesty, directness, emotional openness will either win you a date, or her respect or both. Worst case scenario she shoots you down in a humiliating way, you've learned for sure you do not want someone like that in your life.

 

Once you know what you want, give it a shot. All this feeling one way and acting another is not going to win you anything in life. If she rejects you, the sting of that is good -- it's natures way of helping you move away from her and to something better.