Maggie1111 Posted January 14, 2014 Posted January 14, 2014 (edited) I'm in a 6 year relationship with my boyfriend and im having this infatuation and i dont want to talk about this to anyone. Well, i was 12 and my boyfriend was 16 when we met and now im 18 and im in highschool. Hes the only one ive been in a relationship with in my entire life. He's wonderful and i do love him, but the thing is last year i saw this guy at school and i find him attractive. i feel like theres a indescribable connection between us and no i have never even talked to him. I see him in the hallway while i go to school and theres that eye contact which gives butterflies in my stomach. i dont know what this is. :/ Me and my boyfriend of 6 years are even planning to get married and all after a few years but i seriously cant stop thinking about this mysterious guy. i feel like im kinda cheating on my bf and i dont know what to do. i go to school and i just wanna see him. i come home and spend time with my bf. Oh help me please. Edited January 14, 2014 by Maggie1111
mammasita Posted January 14, 2014 Posted January 14, 2014 You're 18 and in high school. You are young, so very very young. You spend all your time with your boyfriend and its understandable that you have these feelings for a boy you havent even met. If you were my daughter, I would encourage you to get out and live your life and not tie yourself down to one person so soon. You have your entire life ahead of you. Experience it. 3
TaraMaiden Posted January 14, 2014 Posted January 14, 2014 mammasita, you and I are on the same bus today, and on a roll! Maggie1111, you may not like to hear this, but the chances of you two guys 'growing old' together, are not huge. Frankly, if you were my daughter, I'd twll you to not be so hung up about one relationship, and tell you that - exactly as mammasita has said - you're young, and you have way too much life ahead of you to be so serious, so intent and so focused on just hanging out with one guy. That said, you might feel very serious about him.... But the fact you're fantasizing about someone else, indicates your interest is distractable.... Look. Nobody's telling you to end your relationship with your BF, right now. But understand this: Nothing is for ever. And if you think there's a big world out there passing you by, you need to shake this off. But do it honourably. Do not sneak, cheat, or use devious means to extricate yourself. Assess your relationship. look at it seriously. Examine it from all sides. If it's what you want, then quit being a flybrain, and be sensible. If you realise that actually, this doesn't honestly look like a permanent thing, then you need to think of alternative measures. 1
regine_phalange Posted January 14, 2014 Posted January 14, 2014 I was 18. It was the last day of lectures before the summer exams. Boring class. Triple integrals. I noticed a boy in the oppossite lecture room (both our rooms had open doors. It was very hot.). Undescribably handsome. He had long brown hair and deep brown eyes. We were peeking at each other the whole time, then waved and smiled. Until class was over. I had to go somewhere. While walking, I turned away and saw him looking at me. I never saw him again, never learned his name, what department he was from (the lecture rooms were used for 6 different departments). And here I am, 8 years later, not knowing why exactly I am posting this story. 1
Author Maggie1111 Posted January 14, 2014 Author Posted January 14, 2014 Thankyou. I'll consider that
Author Maggie1111 Posted January 14, 2014 Author Posted January 14, 2014 I was 18. It was the last day of lectures before the summer exams. Boring class. Triple integrals. I noticed a boy in the oppossite lecture room (both our rooms had open doors. It was very hot.). Undescribably handsome. He had long brown hair and deep brown eyes. We were peeking at each other the whole time, then waved and smiled. Until class was over. I had to go somewhere. While walking, I turned away and saw him looking at me. I never saw him again, never learned his name, what department he was from (the lecture rooms were used for 6 different departments). And here I am, 8 years later, not knowing why exactly I am posting this story. This inspired me
Fluttershy Posted January 14, 2014 Posted January 14, 2014 When I was 16 I started my first dating relationship. And it got serious from the start due to some rather complicated circumstances I am Unwilling to go into. Anyways, boyfriend went away for the summer and I, ho had never dated before suddenly started noticing all the boys around me. I felt horribly guilty. I met this one guy who we had a mutual attraction and I felt worse. Then I had a friend sit me down and tell me I was committing way to young to boyfriend. I shouldn't feel guilty at 16 for being attracted to other guys. So I decided when boyfriend got home I'd break up with him. Only two people inew I was planning this and the one person told him before I could and it made a horrible mess of things. But I felt so much lighter and free. I didn't cheat on him or anything and nothing ever came of that other guy but I realized I wasn't ready for a lifelong commitment... And that id OKAY! 1
CarrieT Posted January 14, 2014 Posted January 14, 2014 When I was 15, I had a music scholarship to perform with the Cambridge Youth Symphony. I was a California girl who had never been abroad and on my last night in England -- at the wrap party -- I met and briefly talked to a guy named Colin who had the most gorgeous, rosy cheeks. At the end of the night, he kissed my cheek and told me he would love me forever. This was 35 years ago, before social media and email. I never knew is last name but apparently, 10 years later, our conductor who came to visit California and have a bit of a reunion, told me that Colin asked about me. I never saw him again but think of him often... :love: 1
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