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Been doing great but today, thoughts of him this morning. Plus I'm guessing maybe a low serotonin morning.

 

Although I've accepted it, I still every so often just feel sadness, sad that two people that laughed so much now are strangers all because he scared himself about commitment, even though I'd never mentioned or pushed for it, too move in together or get hitched, never, it was all his thoughts and then he scared himself.

 

Nothing I could have done would have made any difference. So again I'm flying solo but ok with that for now. Still I yearn for true lasting love.

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Hang in there babe. You won`t be solo for so long. He lost a good one Softie. Take care today.

 

 

Been doing great but today, thoughts of him this morning. Plus I'm guessing maybe a low serotonin morning.

 

Although I've accepted it, I still every so often just feel sadness, sad that two people that laughed so much now are strangers all because he scared himself about commitment, even though I'd never mentioned or pushed for it, too move in together or get hitched, never, it was all his thoughts and then he scared himself.

 

Nothing I could have done would have made any difference. So again I'm flying solo but ok with that for now. Still I yearn for true lasting love.

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Softie start dating, it will keep you occupied and help forget about him.

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I did, I went on a date on Saturday nice guy but not chemistry there. Still trying to organise my next date.

Hard though as I don't want to lead anyone on and not sure in 100% ready to kiss anyone else let alone anything else.

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I did, I went on a date on Saturday nice guy but not chemistry there. Still trying to organise my next date.

Hard though as I don't want to lead anyone on and not sure in 100% ready to kiss anyone else let alone anything else.

 

Hi

 

I have been following your threads. I read in recent thread that you are feeling fine after 3 months. I also noticed you had ups and downs in these months. Its been only 2 weeks after my break up. I cope up well some days and sometimes the butterflies kick in for an hour everyday. To avoid that I start hating her and think bad about her. I think about positive things and push myself to it.

 

I want to know how you are doing after three months. Out of 7 days a week how many times do you think about him and how long it lasts ?

 

My gf brokeup with me after 4 years simply because she is in confused and lost love towards me, she says. I always believed in one love :(

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See my post from today "it does get better honestly"

 

Xx

 

Would post a the link but no idea how too :)

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Yes I did read the recent one. But what I feel is even if u r totall ok for now do u still get this feeling once in a while ? How often ?

 

My ex gf would keep telling me for past 4 month before breakup that she felt strange and like her love is loosing. I really wonder what is the psychological reason behind it.

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Hang in there :) Some days are easier than others..keep moving forward.

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I just refuse to stay down.

 

I'm sure there will be other lows, that's life not the BU anymore. But although I may get down occasionally I won't stay there.

 

So I get off my butt & exercise, that naturally increases happy hormones & makes you feel better. I'll take a warm bath & pamper myself. I'll just enjoy sitting and enjoying the peace & quiet with my cat on my lap. Finding joy in the smallest of things.

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Been doing great but today, thoughts of him this morning. Plus I'm guessing maybe a low serotonin morning.

 

Although I've accepted it, I still every so often just feel sadness, sad that two people that laughed so much now are strangers all because he scared himself about commitment, even though I'd never mentioned or pushed for it, too move in together or get hitched, never, it was all his thoughts and then he scared himself.

 

Nothing I could have done would have made any difference. So again I'm flying solo but ok with that for now. Still I yearn for true lasting love.

 

When I had accepted the inevitable and things weren't going to work out or knit back together that is the point I began online dating. Even just talking to new guys cheered me up and made me feel better. Friendly flirty banter is fun!!

 

You are most likely feeling alone and it is showing through you missing your past. Chin up, move along and make new good memories and forget those old ones. Don't torture yourself honey. People change and we often don't notice it until it's gone xx

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Finding joy in the smallest of things.

 

Love this! :)

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I just refuse to stay down.

 

I'm sure there will be other lows, that's life not the BU anymore. But although I may get down occasionally I won't stay there.

 

So I get off my butt & exercise, that naturally increases happy hormones & makes you feel better. I'll take a warm bath & pamper myself. I'll just enjoy sitting and enjoying the peace & quiet with my cat on my lap. Finding joy in the smallest of things.

 

LOL @Pampering yourself. By the way, that is exactly what I do, I push myself not to think and fight it until it goes away which lasts about 10minutes or so. Constant fighting and struggling against the feeling helps.

 

I try to find happiness in small things around me like TV, internet, etc.

 

I have been diagnosed with minor depression 3 months before my breakup. And I have been fighting myself since then. Read alot about serotonin level and happy hormones. I found about omega-3 fish oil pills which help boost serotonin level and It seems quite working. Also taking green tea which is a stress buster. :lmao:

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I was being way too clingy to my gf for past two months and she was getting frustrated to come over skype for me.

 

I was not meeting her emotional needs, she wanted my physical presence and cried every night.

 

Can these two reasons be a strong reason why she ended it ?

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I just refuse to stay down.

 

I'm sure there will be other lows, that's life not the BU anymore. But although I may get down occasionally I won't stay there.

 

So I get off my butt & exercise, that naturally increases happy hormones & makes you feel better. I'll take a warm bath & pamper myself. I'll just enjoy sitting and enjoying the peace & quiet with my cat on my lap. Finding joy in the smallest of things.

Exactly, there wll be many ups and downs til' we finally can be completely "over it".

I feel the same as you today, but I've been keeping myself occupied enough to feel like I am moving on.

Playing music has been a great medicine to all of this, as well as writing and exercising. :) I have not seen my friends as much as I would like to, because some of them have really busy schedules, and I am going back to school next week. Things are slowly going back to normal, but I guess they will never be the same as before I met him...

They will be way better! Think about it yourself too :) hugs.

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