Chico333 Posted January 14, 2014 Posted January 14, 2014 (edited) so I've been dating this guy for the past month... we went on a few dates and then he invited me on a fourth date where he invited me over to his house and made dinner. We slept together that night and since then have been out together a couple more times. He asked me to go to an event with him and some friends a couple hours away for the weekend (2 weeks from now) and at first I told him I would think about it and wasn't sure, and he brought it up a couple more times and I agreed to go. He compliments me, and told me that he likes hanging out with me. Obviously I know we are "dating," but he hasn't straight up told me he likes me if that makes any sense. Like he has not put into words that this may be going somewhere. He is showing it in his actions, but hearing it verbally would put me a little more at ease. I don't want to come off too forward by saying something myself first because I'm not sure what he's thinking. Another thing is that unless him or I asks one another to get together and do something, he does not text me. At first we would text back and forth a tiny bit but we would always respond hours later to each other, but since that was at the very beginning I didn't think anything of it. Recently I have initiated a tiny bit of small talk here and there and he never texts back till at least 2/3 hours later. I got the idea that maybe he's not a big texter? But I'm not sure...so like I said earlier, we have plans to get together a couple weeks from now. But obviously we don't talk everyday by any means and I was the last one to initiate the last two times we have gotten together, so I'm just going to wait and see if he initiates anything until then. When we are together it seems like he really likes me. I just wish I knew what he was thinking. I clearly like him but also have not exactly told him either. We are both in our late 20's. Edited January 14, 2014 by Chico333
Shashasha Posted January 14, 2014 Posted January 14, 2014 Urgh I hate all this games. I suggest not messaging him anymore and go AWOL. Wait for a few more times and see whether he bothers messaging.
d0nnivain Posted January 14, 2014 Posted January 14, 2014 Maybe he just doesn't like texting. Going AWOL is a huge childish game. I suggest asking him about the lack of in between communication & talking it through until you reach a level of interaction that satisfies you both
DorkBreakfast Posted January 14, 2014 Posted January 14, 2014 You could always pick up the phone and call him? You know, pick up emotional cues and such?
Ok Good Posted January 14, 2014 Posted January 14, 2014 Ok he LIKES you! He MADE you dinner AND is planning something with you 2 weeks from now! Now try to feel safe and just let him know you like him!! Because you're just going to get strange if you keep waiting for him to acknowledge his feelings for you first. And if he gets awkward after that then you'll know that he may not feel the love.. And I'm not suggesting some intense declaration of love obviously! lol just 'I like you' or 'I really like you' is fine
Author Chico333 Posted January 14, 2014 Author Posted January 14, 2014 Ok.... so maybe I'll just not contact him at all unless he initiates it and the next time we do hang out I will tell him I like him. I'm pretty certain he knows that I like him though... He has to work the weekend so I already know we wont be hanging out then so, I guess we will see. I know game playing seems immature but, it is not brain science to know that if one person contacts the other "too much" it can scare them away or make them less interested because they know it's a sure thing. We went to dinner with another couple last week and it was fun. I paid for dinner so... (because he made me dinner last). I just don't understand why he never texts me. That's why I'm not sure if I'm just over analyzing this.
Barbarossa Posted January 14, 2014 Posted January 14, 2014 We went to dinner with another couple last week and it was fun. I paid for dinner so... (because he made me dinner last). I just don't understand why he never texts me. That's why I'm not sure if I'm just over analyzing this. Some guys don't like to text...like me lol. I never know what to say even if I really like a girl . I'm much better in person and it sounds like your guy is as well. 1
Fondue Posted January 14, 2014 Posted January 14, 2014 Urgh I hate all this games. I suggest not messaging him anymore and go AWOL. Wait for a few more times and see whether he bothers messaging. You hate all the games, yet you're trying to start one . Don't listen to this advice. Like another poster mentioned, he may simply not like texting. Doesn't care for it. People are entitled to that. Judge him on how he treats you in person, when he's around you... Especially around other people. Being a man, I can honestly say that if I visibly treat you well in front of people I respect, then I am into you. THat goes for any man. If he showing OTHER people that he goes out of his way to treat you, then he's serious. Him asking you to JOIN him with HIS friends for an entire WEEKEND... Yah, he digs you. I am a guy who doesn't care much for texting. It isn't because I don't like you, it just is what it is. I don't feel the need to communicate daily. 1
Author Chico333 Posted January 14, 2014 Author Posted January 14, 2014 You hate all the games, yet you're trying to start one . Don't listen to this advice. Like another poster mentioned, he may simply not like texting. Doesn't care for it. People are entitled to that. Judge him on how he treats you in person, when he's around you... Especially around other people. Being a man, I can honestly say that if I visibly treat you well in front of people I respect, then I am into you. THat goes for any man. If he showing OTHER people that he goes out of his way to treat you, then he's serious. Him asking you to JOIN him with HIS friends for an entire WEEKEND... Yah, he digs you. I am a guy who doesn't care much for texting. It isn't because I don't like you, it just is what it is. I don't feel the need to communicate daily. Thanks. Reading it from this point of view sounds exactly what it is. Answered my question completely. Thanks
ShyGuy5 Posted January 15, 2014 Posted January 15, 2014 If you have to ask, then the answer is Yes you are over thinking
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