hockeygoalieguy Posted January 14, 2014 Posted January 14, 2014 Four years ago I met this girl and started to like her. We were close friends but eventually lost contact after a year or two. This summer we started talking again and hung out a couple times. My old feelings for her came back, and she seemed to like me too. We went on a couple dates before becoming a couple. We had an amazing three months together that could only be described as near-perfect. When I left college for winter break, I knew things would be hard. We managed fine, and she sent me an amazing package four days before I came back. We didn't talk much the last two days, but I didn't think much of it. I drove up to campus a day early to see her again, and instantly knew something was wrong. I figured it had to do with her best friend leaving for her home country, and asked her what was wrong. She asked to go on a walk, so we walked around campus. She explained to me in a very long way why she couldn't be with me, but never really flat out said she was breaking up for a long time. She told me I'd never understand why, but I just wasn't "the one". She was really nice about it the entire time, said she still wanted to be friends and hang out and that if I needed anything to just text her. I learned later from one of her friends that she thought we were more friends than couple, and she told me her feelings were "NOT for me". Yet she told me numerous times she liked me a lot and missed me, and everything we did together was an amazing time. I want nothing more than to get her back and have been completely miserable since. I've texted her a couple times, but she won't respond any more. I have no idea what to do.
pickflicker Posted January 14, 2014 Posted January 14, 2014 Well, her silence is as clear as glass. There isn't anything more that you can do. If she wanted to be with you, she would. I'm afraid you'll just have to delete her number and move forward. She was probably trying to be as nice and diplomatic as possible by complimenting you on the time you spent together, but he actions are very specific and very clear - she is not interested in you. 2
Shashasha Posted January 14, 2014 Posted January 14, 2014 It definitely hurts - it must be so tough for you because she just left like that - she definitely doesn't seem interested - why would you want someone who isn't interested in you? Its easier said than done - but you have to push on and move on! Going after her even more is just going to push her further away. Leave her alone and go nc...you will find someone much better!!
sw2020 Posted January 14, 2014 Posted January 14, 2014 Rejection sucks. No two ways about it. Good thing is you're in the right place for moving forward. It sounds as though her actions are incredibly clear. Not easy to take, especially when you're dumped in a nice way.
somedude81 Posted January 14, 2014 Posted January 14, 2014 Sucks that this happened. Yeah it makes no sense and there is not much you can do. Some people just suck.
Chi townD Posted January 14, 2014 Posted January 14, 2014 Sorry dude. But, I don't get her saying that her feelings were "not for you"? So, who the hell were they for?!?!? You need to go NC on her. Complete NO CONTACT! You can't be friends with her while you're harboring romantic feelings for her. That's not fair to you. She's making the choice to have you out of her life. She's told you that your services are no longer required as a boyfriend. So, what's really left then? Why would you want to hang around someone that you want more of but she's saying "No way! No chance!" Do you really want to hang around someone who feelings aren't for you? But, do you want to hang around until she finds the guy who her feeling ARE meant for?
Pastel Posted January 14, 2014 Posted January 14, 2014 There's no point in analyzing why she feels the way she feels. We won't be able to accurately tell. You need to move on. Don't be friends with her. Pretend to be happy until you are actually happy with yourself. I'm not saying that she will beg for you back, but she may be impressed that you're focusing on yourself and YOUR well being. She may even feel some regret, even though she won't tell you that she's feeling said regret. Don't work on yourself to make her want you back though. That's unhealthy and won't help you move on.
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