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hi all right 1st posting here

and pls be gentle as im not feeling good

cut a long story short I have thrown a chance away with I think is my soul mate

we are both mature in our 40s both single, and she has just been divorced

so met up from a website both live close by, she made the starting message

so we met 1st date , we are both looking for a relationship

we had a great time none stop chatting for 4hrs and treated her like a princess nothing at all sexual she was loving it ,sitting close , getting the right body talk, agreed then and there for a 2nd date and also added eachother onto fb

we parted with no snogs, I wasn't even thinking of anything like that as I respected her too much

anyway I got home and a fab txt off her also the following day then it stopped

this is now where ive screwed up , I didn't get any txts off her for 5 days then on the day of the arranged date I txt her to confirm for the date and then no reply , then I sent 1 more in the evening sayin if I don't hear from u I take it as a hint , and no reply (yes I screwed up) , so following morning as Im still on her fb I said theres no need to be on it and removed her , yes I know BIG mistake

now I found out that she was really looking for someone as a friend and was seeing if I could be there for her after the divorce shes looking for someone to be by her side as a friend at 1st, also she wanted to do the chasing and not me coming onto her

ive sent her a txt saying hope your havin a nice day and thinking of you

also a re request on fb,

ive seen her back on the dating site , which ive now removed my profile

you know when you know the 2 of you meet your partner and theres a real click mentally

 

 

right where now and pls go easy its 2am here and cant sleep :(

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Move on.. you met her once and you're investing in her like this? Maybe I'm missing something, but keep dating and going out and let this one go. If she wants to date you, she'll let you know.

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You wanted to date her. You acted cordially & with the best intentions.

 

 

Teenage girls need men to be their friends 1st before the date them. Grown women usually prefer to be romanced. I don't understand why this woman would want a buddy when she could have a BF / lover.

 

 

As much as you enjoyed talking to her, she doesn't sound worth the effort.

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thanks for the quick response guys

i think she wants just to start off as friends and work on it slowly , well that was until i pushed her away with a heavy txt

if theres for once i could turn back time then this would the time

 

 

i said something pvt to her which i could tell it touched her and the bond was made , it wasn't just a date it was meeting the 1 , and i know she is the 1

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You know she's the one? Yeesh. Dude, you are way too keyed up and freaked this girl out. Time to back way, way, way off.

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I don't what u mean too keyboard out we had no contact for 5 days then on the day on the pre arranged date I was confirming it

yes I read the signals wrong , but I think your statement was a bit ott

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I don't what u mean too keyboard out we had no contact for 5 days then on the day on the pre arranged date I was confirming it

yes I read the signals wrong , but I think your statement was a bit ott

 

You just said that a woman who doesn't want a second date with you because you were too intense on the first date was the one. Unfortunately, I think I'm right on the money and I'm guessing she feels the same way. It sounds like you gave off a vibe that made her uncomfortable.

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richie,

 

I may be missing something, but I don't get any sense that she was THAT into you. So, you had a fun, friendly first date. That doesn't mean a whole lot until the next few dates. She never got back to you...she just wasn't that interested in you as much as you were of her. Her telling you that she just wanted to be friends after being silent for 5-days and not even having the decency to confirm the date is her way of saying that she was not interested in dating you.

 

She probably found someone else during that time or she realized that she wasn't ready for a relationship with you.

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thanks for the reply

yeah ive given off the complete wrong vibes I should have been calm and collective but I didn't

as u said back off now which I've got to do

I really do hope its not over yet or have I really screwed up that big

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thanks for the reply

yeah ive given off the complete wrong vibes I should have been calm and collective but I didn't

as u said back off now which I've got to do

I really do hope its not over yet or have I really screwed up that big

 

It's dead dude. It's one thing if you had a series of dates, but if one date was enough to tell her no, the chance of you getting another crack is slim or none. I would chalk this up as a mistake, learn from it, brush yourself off and move forward.

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richie,

 

I don't believe you made a mistake. Think about it. If she really liked you, she would have been texting during the 5-days. Not to mention contact you on the day of the date.

 

SHE WASN'T INTERESTED IN DATING YOU FURTHER. You didn't do anything wrong.

 

Some people agree to a second date b/c they don't know how to say no in person. So, some people simply disappear or give excuses when they are not face to face. I seriously doubt she even really wants to be friends with you now.

 

Move on.

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