repster Posted January 14, 2014 Posted January 14, 2014 Hi there, I'm a 20 year old college student, and I have had a pretty bad past where I've struggled with women. However, in the last two years I have really come a long way. I have got into fitness and sports, and developed a stronger sense of self-confidence and self-esteem. I am no longer nervous to meet new girls and after leaving my teenage years I am confident in my looks, in fact I think I look pretty good. Over the last few months I've been really looking for a long-term relationship after growing tired of one night stands. It may sound cheesy, but I want something more meaningful and someone to be with. I have gotten to know several girls that are interesting and fun, but every time I grow attached and start seeing them more, things fall apart and they end up not being interested. After several rejections now I have become real depressed, as well as bitter and hurt, and I am now pushing my close friends away, which just makes me feel even more depressed. I'm ambitious, competitive, but when it comes to people I am caring and nice. I take care of my body, and I listen to people. I find it easy to get along with new people by having a fun outgoing personality. I don't hold the highest standards and though looks are a factor in initial attraction, I do value personality way more. Maybe I'm just destined to be alone, and just career-orientated, but to me that just seems dry and boring. The problem is I feel like I'm doing everything right here, but I still can't just be happy with someone. At this point I feel like giving up. I'd really appreciate some feedback and guidance, or anything to boost my spirits. 1
SYLLPalmer Posted January 14, 2014 Posted January 14, 2014 Hi there, I'm a 20 year old college student, and I have had a pretty bad past where I've struggled with women. However, in the last two years I have really come a long way. I have got into fitness and sports, and developed a stronger sense of self-confidence and self-esteem. I am no longer nervous to meet new girls and after leaving my teenage years I am confident in my looks, in fact I think I look pretty good. Over the last few months I've been really looking for a long-term relationship after growing tired of one night stands. It may sound cheesy, but I want something more meaningful and someone to be with. I have gotten to know several girls that are interesting and fun, but every time I grow attached and start seeing them more, things fall apart and they end up not being interested. After several rejections now I have become real depressed, as well as bitter and hurt, and I am now pushing my close friends away, which just makes me feel even more depressed. I'm ambitious, competitive, but when it comes to people I am caring and nice. I take care of my body, and I listen to people. I find it easy to get along with new people by having a fun outgoing personality. I don't hold the highest standards and though looks are a factor in initial attraction, I do value personality way more. Maybe I'm just destined to be alone, and just career-orientated, but to me that just seems dry and boring. The problem is I feel like I'm doing everything right here, but I still can't just be happy with someone. At this point I feel like giving up. I'd really appreciate some feedback and guidance, or anything to boost my spirits. Well you are a rare bird. When I was your age ( I am a girl) I was a ridiculous mess. I had no idea what I wanted and feel in and out of love at the drop of a hat. It is a game of numbers. That is all I can tell you. Girls and boys at that age define themselves by who they date and the criteria are very slim. The hottest and most popular dude wins. That will change. And you may find a good girl in the meantime. For now you gotta take it in stride and don't dis your friends because that is where the true rewards in youth come in. 1
Shashasha Posted January 14, 2014 Posted January 14, 2014 You are a rare gem - guys like you are really hard to find! Please don't give up - you have good and high standards and don't settle for anyone less. You will find the right girl ; someone who loves you and wants a long, lasting relationship just like you. Keep going - concentrate on yourself for now, enjoy being by yourself and you will see love might just happen..it will come when you least expect it!! chins up xxx
Author repster Posted January 14, 2014 Author Posted January 14, 2014 Thanks for the vote of confidence guys, it certainly has given me a better outlook. I am going to continue being myself and not carry too many expectations when it comes to girls. If the right one comes around, she will. 1
Shashasha Posted January 14, 2014 Posted January 14, 2014 Thanks for the vote of confidence guys, it certainly has given me a better outlook. I am going to continue being myself and not carry too many expectations when it comes to girls. If the right one comes around, she will. Way to go!!!!
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