freebird31 Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 8 months broken up..going on 9. Is it unhealthy/wrong to say that I still think of him every single day since the break up? I mean not all day of course...but before i go to sleep, i think about it. Or something will remind me of him. He is not on my mind 24/7 but yes, i he does come to my mind at least once every single day since we have been broken up.. Sometimes, i think of the way that things ended and the things that he had said. I think of the feelings that we shared and the amazing relationship we had for those 8 months. And i think of how we are both still a couple of kids, trying to find our way in this crazy world. And i think about how i knew in my heart, how much we really cared for each other. I think about our relationship. It wasnt perfect, but we made it a good one. I think about the last words that he said to me, "You wanted your space. I am trying to just give it to you now," in a passive agressive tone. I think about how he told me was still attracted me, still had love for me. How those words resonate with me and haunt me all the time. I think about the night we met up 3 months after the Breakup, and how he kissed my forhead and held me tight, how we laughed and held each other. And I just know in my heart, unexplainably, that he does still have those feelings for me and the feelings never faded for him. The feelings never faded for him. The feelings are still there. And i think about why we broke up...and theres not much of a reason becuase he never gave me a real one. he just implied that he had a lot going on with school. And he did. And i just think if those feelings between us never faded, then maybe the real reason that he broke it off was because he was scared. He was scared becuase he liked me so much and what we had was very real, and maybe he was not ready....so he got scared. Thats the only thing that I can think of. Because i cant imagine any other reason why you would break up with someone, if it didnt have to deal with your feelings diminishing. I think he got scared...
Shashasha Posted January 14, 2014 Posted January 14, 2014 Its completely normal to feel this way. Please don't beat yourself up about it - its all part of the healing process. Give yourself more time and time will make it better. I feel the exact same way as you - I still think of my ex everyday but it gets better and better. I think the key is to help yourself = try to distract yourself and focus on yourself. You will be fine! You are not alone
Eau Claire Posted January 14, 2014 Posted January 14, 2014 Depends. Thinking about it is fine as long as you are leading an otherwise productive life and keeping a healthy lifestyle. The second guessing, etc, not so much at this stage of your life (you say you are both young). Open yourself up to meeting someone fresh and new. Be sure to make any new fellow feel special and don't drag your past relationship into your new one.
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