crisp Posted January 10, 2005 Posted January 10, 2005 I'm sick to my stomach. How well do you think you know your SO? Why is s/he with you? Just love? Think again!!! How much does the social position matter to her/him? What about money??? Confess! If you would decide tomorrow to break up tomorrow with your g/bf for no apparent reason, how will s/he take it? Will s/he accept it? Be threatening you? Go further? How involved are you in your relationship and how well do you know the limits of your SO? Should you give yourself 100%? Does it worth while?
Author crisp Posted January 11, 2005 Author Posted January 11, 2005 Not to me, thanks Lord. I'm also known as "the problem solver". My sister. She told him off, he packed and left(were together for 2 years and are both 21), and now he's threating to kill her. He started by saying he'd break her next bf legs and now he just started with this ****. Then he'd kill himself. Riiight!!!! He's full of you know what. PRoblem is that before he seemed perfectly normal. But it got me thinking. Should you have a sudden change of heart, how would my bf react? How well do I know him? How much should one get involved in a relationship? Do I really know the limits of my partener? Is respect incompatible with passion? (iceises, get a beer! 14 of Feb ain't that far away )
Bronzepen Posted January 11, 2005 Posted January 11, 2005 With time you will eventually get to know your partner. Although sometimes people are blind with love/infatuation/crush and do not see the problem even if it's staring them in the face. Depending on how long you've been with your BF, you should have a good understanding on what kind of person he is. With time, the person your with let's a little of themselves out even if they try to hide it. If your blinded by deep emotions then you will never see it.
Author crisp Posted January 11, 2005 Author Posted January 11, 2005 He was never violent to her. Almost not even talking. He seemed quite placid, if you ask me. My theory is that it's a s***y world and when going out with someone, is like drawing a lucky straw. You never really know what you're getting. So what if in time you understand? If after a year you realise that he might get violent under certain circumstances, like my sister did? Isn't he still harassing her? It's laughable, but I don't see a way out. I heard that praying a lot helped!!! LOOOL!
Bronzepen Posted January 11, 2005 Posted January 11, 2005 Originally posted by crisp He was never violent to her. Almost not even talking. He seemed quite placid, if you ask me. My theory is that it's a s***y world and when going out with someone, is like drawing a lucky straw. You never really know what you're getting. So what if in time you understand? If after a year you realise that he might get violent under certain circumstances, like my sister did? Isn't he still harassing her? It's laughable, but I don't see a way out. I heard that praying a lot helped!!! LOOOL! The way out is, once you understand the type of person he/she is and you don't like it. Then you end it. If your sisters BF is still harassing her then get an restraining order.
Author crisp Posted January 11, 2005 Author Posted January 11, 2005 Yeah, well, she's not in the US and she need to show them photos, eventually bruises before the police can do something. I'm usually not like a porkupine, but this is affecting me. I don't live in the same country as she does... And she's a bit immature also. The smallest child, what can I say. We're both kinda stuck! I know that we should (she should) not let herself be intimitated. She's just not that strong. Consequently, I cannot do a thing either, sine I can talk to him 'till tomorrow, it won't matter. I think he'll even enjoy the attention. Oh, well...
Zoot Posted January 12, 2005 Posted January 12, 2005 When dating someone it's best for someone to keep their financial benefits to themselves. There are too many people out there looking for a quick fix rather than doing what THEY need to do in order to reach the lifestyle they may wish to live in. Unfortunately, marriage is one way and you never really know until it's too late.
Author crisp Posted January 12, 2005 Author Posted January 12, 2005 I have my own little theories about marriage. It's different. I find it hard to believe that most people are 100% unaware of this trait in the SO's character. Relationships on the other hand are the preliminaries. Like reherseals. Easier to make mistakes. Anyway, I guess I was just talking out loud. IT's a horrid subject but if you guys took only a second to consider the possibilities, then it reached its' purpose. Not only fairytales and fairies out there, is it?
iceisles Posted January 12, 2005 Posted January 12, 2005 Originally posted by crisp Relationships on the other hand are the preliminaries. Like reherseals. Easier to make mistakes. Yeah, dating is kind of like the regular season in sports. You have ups and downs over the long haul, and if you're good enough, you make the playoffs (marriage). Lol. Anyone who says they are easy is either very optimistic or is not being honest with themselves.
Author crisp Posted January 12, 2005 Author Posted January 12, 2005 Easier than marriage. Like not the legal crap if you want out. I've never been marriage, but it's like this bigger than the world institution to me. Maybe it's just my deformed apprehension.
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