StanMusial Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 Has anyone ever observed a situation in which a third party tries to set someone up with a friend, when they know the person they are setting up already has a gf/bf/fiance? For instance, Person A is in a stable, happy, long-term relationship with Person B, yet Person C wants to fix up Person A with someone they know? Person C is well-aware of the relationship between A and B, and has no reason to doubt the stability, quality, and bona fides of either party or their relationship. What do you think of Person C? What do you think of the situation altogether?
TaraMaiden Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 Sorry, it's just plain wrong. Person C deserves a punch in the kisser.....
soccerrprp Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 Person C simply doesn't like person B for whatever reason....and what TaraMaiden said.
nescafe1982 Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 Someone did that to me when I was with the last ex. They did it because they didn't approve of our relationship (p.s. they were right). It still made things really awkward for all concerned. It's a stupid, stupid idea in other words.
Author StanMusial Posted January 13, 2014 Author Posted January 13, 2014 Someone did that to me when I was with the last ex. They did it because they didn't approve of our relationship (p.s. they were right). It still made things really awkward for all concerned. It's a stupid, stupid idea in other words. At least in that situation, one could argue that the third party was looking out for your best interests. I have seen this happen firsthand several times. It recently happened to me and I didn't know what to say except "I have a gf". Even though she KNEW this (but doesn't know my gf personally). I don't understand what that third party could possibly be thinking... I can understand if they just don't like the other party for some reason, but I've seen it happen when there was no indication of that. Is it possible someone could just get carried away? I'll give you an example. I was dating a girl about 10 years ago, and she wanted to fix up my buddy with this other girl she knew. The problem was, my buddy was dating someone, and she knew the girl, and as far as I could tell they were friendly with each other. There was a crew of us that hung out all the time, that consisted of several couples and several single guys and single girls. To be honest, I was sort of flabbergasted when she brought it up... it made me see her differently and view her as shady LOL. What other conclusion could be made? I think she wanted to impress her friend, and fix her up with someone good-looking and popular, but there were several single guys that we hung out with ALL THE TIME that she could've tried to set up.
Mrlonelyone Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 I have seen my Aunt, who did not like my father want to fix up my mother with someone new. That was when they had been together since 1973 and married since 1980. I have seen/heard of people wanting to fix up people I was dating when they knew I was dating them. That sort of happened with my last EX about whom I've written so much. Her friends wanted her friends outside of our field wanted her to date this other friend of theirs exclusively. While people who knew her in our area, while wise enough not to say it directly, indicated they wanted her to be with me. Either way neither of us appreciated the meddling. I have had people want to fix me up with someone else. It more or less is always because they don't approve of the relationship or otherwise have some agenda.
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