Bearx Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 (edited) I posted a thread before. I think it's called "He's So Distant :(" or something likewise. If you wanna know the details. Here. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/long-distance-relationships/451022-he-so-distant But, it's happening again. I avoided getting in contact with my LDR boyfriend for about 2 weeks. I thought he'd miss me and want to spend more time with me if I magically went out of the picture. The first day back when I started contacting him again, he said that he actually missed me. I felt happy. But, then he forced me into something I didn't wanna do. I don't wanna tell you guys on what it is because it's somewhat embarrassing. Anyways... He said that if I loved him, I'd do it. A couple of hours later (probably 2 hours) of him getting annoyed, I agreed to it. He then went to bed and I stayed up a little longer to thoroughly think about what happened on that day. Today, after coming back from college at 15:00ish, he didn't contact me until 19:30ish. When he did, he just said hi, asked what I was doing, ignored me till 21:00ish shortly after replying back saying that he was gonna go to bed. And this has been happening for a while now. 3 months I believe. Maybe even more. I don't even know whats happening anymore. Edited January 13, 2014 by Bearx Put In The Link
d0nnivain Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 I read your other thread. What is your end game here? He's certainly not motivated enough to do anything to close the distance between you. You seem to be settling for a lazy guy with no job, no school, no ambition & no desire to do anything to change that even if that means he'll never see you. Why? You disappeared for two weeks but he didn't event seem to notice. Him saying that he missed you doesn't show that he cared enough to figure out where you went or if you were OK. Now, you are doing things that you aren't comfortable with just to please him. I'm guessing they were sexual in nature. Again. my question is why? You seem to be giving this guy a little piece of your soul but what are you getting in return? 2
Author Bearx Posted January 13, 2014 Author Posted January 13, 2014 I read your other thread. What is your end game here? He's certainly not motivated enough to do anything to close the distance between you. You seem to be settling for a lazy guy with no job, no school, no ambition & no desire to do anything to change that even if that means he'll never see you. Why? You disappeared for two weeks but he didn't event seem to notice. Him saying that he missed you doesn't show that he cared enough to figure out where you went or if you were OK. Now, you are doing things that you aren't comfortable with just to please him. I'm guessing they were sexual in nature. Again. my question is why? You seem to be giving this guy a little piece of your soul but what are you getting in return? I really love him. . _.
Zahara Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 I really love him. . _. Unfortunately, older and wiser -- love just isn't enough.
ExpatInItaly Posted January 14, 2014 Posted January 14, 2014 I really love him. . _. He doesn't love you back, girl. It was no problem for him when you disappeared. He really just didn't care. He is manipulating you into doing something you're not comfortable with and stringing you along for his convenient pleasure. And just what the heck did you do for him? I hope it was nothing over a webcam. Just taking a wild guess, here. 2
Author Bearx Posted January 16, 2014 Author Posted January 16, 2014 He wants me to watch him do guy stuff. :\ And then he leaves right after if i do/don't. Today, he told me to watch him. I refused cause I simply didn't want to. After, he said that, I was in a bad mood today so he was going to go to bed. The conversation lasted for 20 mins. He ignored me for 10mins. So, I guess it lasted for 10. I really don't understand . :\
Zahara Posted January 16, 2014 Posted January 16, 2014 He wants me to watch him do guy stuff. :\ And then he leaves right after if i do/don't. Today, he told me to watch him. I refused cause I simply didn't want to. After, he said that, I was in a bad mood today so he was going to go to bed. The conversation lasted for 20 mins. He ignored me for 10mins. So, I guess it lasted for 10. I really don't understand . :\ You understand. You just don't want to accept that your relationship isn't quite what you fantasized and hoped for it to be. 1
Els Posted January 17, 2014 Posted January 17, 2014 I really don't understand . :\ There is nothing much to understand. He just isn't as invested in this R as you are.
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