wargrrl Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 i have been living with my boyfriend for over a year now and we have been together for 2 years. he is addicted to WoW and is a big pothead he bases his self worth on material posessions and doesnt realize how unhealthy it is for him. he calls all of his friends and his friends' parents losers for not "working hard enough" to provide them with luxurious things. it makes me sick when he says stuff like that, but i know it's only to make him feel better about himself, i know deep down he is insecure about his own loserish lifestyle. he has high standards and thinks using credit cards is no big deal to afford him more expensive things. no matter how many times i try to point out to him how insecure he is, he doesnt get it, or doesnt want to cknowledge that he has low self esteem. and honestly, im so sick of hearing him talk down on other people when he has nothing to show for. should this be a deal breaker for me? i dont know if i can be with someone who looks down on other people and is so judgmental of them even though i know that he is truly insecure himself
Philosoraptor Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 Sounds like a winner... when's the wedding date? The real question here is why do you feel like you need to settle for someone like this? You're obviously unhappy with how he is so why stick around instead of finding someone who is respectful? 2
Zahara Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 should this be a deal breaker for me? i dont know if i can be with someone who looks down on other people and is so judgmental of them even though i know that he is truly insecure himself You answered your question.
Eau Claire Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 If your boyfriend has low self esteem...your's is even lower. Try associating with guys who lead a healthy lifestyle...do zero drugs, don't smoke....the ones who want to take you on a bicycle ride. They are the keepers who you want to be the father of your children.
mammasita Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 Why'd you even agree to move in with him? I bet he never cleans up after himself either.
TaraMaiden Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 i have been living with my boyfriend for over a year now and we have been together for 2 years. he is addicted to WoW and is a big pothead he bases his self worth on material posessions and doesnt realize how unhealthy it is for him. he calls all of his friends and his friends' parents losers for not "working hard enough" to provide them with luxurious things. it makes me sick when he says stuff like that, but i know it's only to make him feel better about himself, i know deep down he is insecure about his own loserish lifestyle. he has high standards and thinks using credit cards is no big deal to afford him more expensive things. no matter how many times i try to point out to him how insecure he is, he doesnt get it, or doesnt want to cknowledge that he has low self esteem. and honestly, im so sick of hearing him talk down on other people when he has nothing to show for. should this be a deal breaker for me? i dont know if i can be with someone who looks down on other people and is so judgmental of them even though i know that he is truly insecure himself This is one war you're never going to win, because you've suffered defeat at every turn..... Sometimes, the best strategy is to admit defeat and withdraw gracefully....
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