espinoza0 Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 History: divorced for 1.5 years now. boyfriend for the last 1.5 years as well. (it happened quickly around divorce time) broke up on new year eve Now: potential partners; one great man 14 year older, we have a great conversation together, but he has 4 grown up children living with him, whom he raised (amazing), and I already look like a teenager at 36 (that is the latest comment I got). Others: guys my age are still immature here it seems. There is this one guy I kept in touch for a year, who is a serial dater; he dates a lot of women. I initially rejected him and kept him as a friend, but I feel he matured now, and has interesting sides such as traveling to search for his roots (I love both topics!) Anyways...what is girl at 36 to look for? I have a daughter, so I could want another child, but it is not essential. Parenting is tiring and anyone who says otherwise...well...I don't believe them I like a Turkish guy , photographer, and he likes me. I am going to meet him in Istanbul, but I don't know if by this I am finding my life or complicating it. Our home country is a lousy place to live; I am trying to save up and think about traveling sometime, but I would have to leave my daughter with her father and step mother, both being capable adults and they love her. My country also is so conservative guys feel they own a girl who just chats with them or goes out for lunch or whatever. Then there is this mysterious guy I reunited with on twitter; we knew each other long distance when we were both students in the usa, about 15 years ago. He doesn't text me but I text him, though he is always nice and flirtatious. I promised to bring him something from Istanbul, so maybe we will meet. Advice please, how to set criteria and how to proceed. I have so much energy to put in home life and marriage and a relationship I just cannot live in my parents house anymore. I feel it is time to move on.
d0nnivain Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 Compatibility. Are you on the same page about the important stuff? Personality. Do you think he's funny, intelligent & interesting? If the sex wasn't there, would still want to hang out with him? Integrity. Is he a good guy? honest? trustworthy? Sex appeal / chemistry. Does he get your motor running? Stability. Can he support himself? Support you? Does he have ambition or is he lazy? 1
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