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What criteria should I look for in a partner?


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History: divorced for 1.5 years now.

boyfriend for the last 1.5 years as well. (it happened quickly around

divorce time)

broke up on new year eve :(

 

 

Now: potential partners; one great man 14 year older, we have a great conversation together, but he has 4 grown up children living with him, whom he raised (amazing), and I already look like a teenager at 36 (that is the latest comment I got).

 

Others: guys my age are still immature here it seems. There is this one guy I kept in touch for a year, who is a serial dater; he dates a lot of women. I initially rejected him and kept him as a friend, but I feel he matured now, and has interesting sides such as traveling to search for his roots (I love both topics!)

 

Anyways...what is girl at 36 to look for? I have a daughter, so I could want another child, but it is not essential. Parenting is tiring and anyone who says otherwise...well...I don't believe them :)

 

I like a Turkish guy , photographer, and he likes me. I am going to meet him in Istanbul, but I don't know if by this I am finding my life or complicating it. Our home country is a lousy place to live; I am trying to save up and think about traveling sometime, but I would have to leave my daughter with her father and step mother, both being capable adults and they love her.

 

My country also is so conservative guys feel they own a girl who just chats with them or goes out for lunch or whatever.

 

Then there is this mysterious guy I reunited with on twitter; we knew each other long distance when we were both students in the usa, about 15 years ago. He doesn't text me but I text him, though he is always nice and flirtatious. I promised to bring him something from Istanbul, so maybe we will meet.

 

Advice please, how to set criteria and how to proceed. I have so much energy to put in home life and marriage and a relationship I just cannot live in my parents house anymore. I feel it is time to move on.

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Compatibility. Are you on the same page about the important stuff?

 

 

Personality. Do you think he's funny, intelligent & interesting? If the sex wasn't there, would still want to hang out with him?

 

 

Integrity. Is he a good guy? honest? trustworthy?

 

 

Sex appeal / chemistry. Does he get your motor running?

 

 

Stability. Can he support himself? Support you? Does he have ambition or is he lazy?

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Thanks Donnivain :)

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