chalanting Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 Our relationship was doomed from the start. 4 years ago, we started couples therapy. 2 years ago we moved to two new places and figured out a good custody routine for our daughter. I grieved then. Then we started hooking up again, but I wanted to take it slow. She agreed at first but then started moving faster - sending me listings of houses and stuff. Then she got really distant (and I found out later started seeing someone else). In June, I said ENOUGH and we agreed it was over. We even said we could see other people (I don't remember this at all, not even a little bit, but I found it in my journals). We've had more or less the same amount of communication for the past 2 years. When I found out on 1/1 that she was seeing other people and maybe getting serious with one, I lost it. I've been in so much pain. I've been working on it - on myself - on making sure my daughter is always first priority. But the question that just hit me as I drove in to work: WHY am I grieving so much? Why does this hurt so badly? I've never had a breakup effect me anywhere near this much. What is it that I'm grieving? How do I figure this out?
haven Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 I am sorry to hear about ur situation. Its only human to be hurting. The hurt will eventually go away as time goes by. But in the mean time try and take some time for urself do what makes u happy. You have a beautiful child make her happy and forget about the past. Start a new chapter in ur life and be happy.
Author chalanting Posted January 13, 2014 Author Posted January 13, 2014 Thanks haven. Just being heard helps for sure. Part of the problem is I don't know what makes me happy right now. I also don't have custody of our daughter from Sunday-Thursday, so I can't go do something fun with her . I don't quite feel "hopeless", but that's not far off the mark.
haven Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 life will get better it might not seem so at this moment but time will heal and a person who cheats on u doesnt have any respect for u and it only shows u deserve better. make whatever time u have with ur daughter special so that she will always remember the good things her dad did for her.
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