MissUn-loved Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 I Have been in my relationship for 8 years, in all honesty I was crazy about him I felt like he was the one we have been together since we were 15 years old and I was always one of the guys so I feel like he treats me as such I was hoping he would change and treat me the way I am supposed to be treated but that never happened the sex was amazing at first but now its boring and unsatisfying and trust me we have tried everything when we are together I feel like just get it over with and get off me already. I almost feel a bit of hate towards him. Its not like I keep things to myself either I have spoken to him a million times we have gone to counseling and he has an epiphany and then nothing changes, I have tried my heart out to make him happy but its not the same from his end he does what I say but that's not a relationship that's a parent child situation. I do mostly everything and I'm tired of it. that said I have been feeling like the relationship isn't for me anymore as I do not get what I need emotionally or physically and as a result I don't put any effort to try with him either. since we had our daughter he has put on a lot of weight and that has made me even more un-attracted to him I am someone what of a fitness person and don't like to be out of shape after I had my daughter I was back at it and back in shape but he just stayed my daughter is now one and he is still the lazy slob. for the past 3 years I have just felt like the relationship has deteriorated. like he isn't the one I don't want to marry him or be with him I feel annoyed and sometimes disgusted by him the way he treats him self and me with no care and no love and we have a daughter whom needs a strong foundation in her life. I don't know what to do please help. I want to leave but don't know how.
TaraMaiden Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 It's very easy. You pack your stuff, tell him it's over, and go to a safe place (with friends or family) until you can find a place of your own. You're not joined at the hip; no surgery is required. The moment you say it's over, that's what it is. The hard bit is meaning it. Your daughter isn't getting what she needs now, because you obviously feel completely unconnected, and you are desperately unhappy. So? So change things. She can't. You - Can. 2
Haydn Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 Ok, daughter comes first. If you stay with him and are miserable she will not have a strong foundation. Its not selfish to want more. If he keeps saying he will change its pointless, people rarely change and you can`t change him. He does not turn you on anymore and that is so important. A lot of things can be worked out but sex is the one thing that clicks or does not. I have to ask......Have you got your eye on someone else? If yes then you may have that flush of excitment and danger that happens to most of us. I really cannot tell you want you do but if i was in your position i think i would leave. Could you sit down with him and thrash it out and be honest. It may hurt him but maybe you should. I have a daughter and was in a similar situation years ago. We parted and it worked out in the long run. Others here will have more advice and knowledge. Keep strong. Caymen Islands? Tax exile? (Joke) I Have been in my relationship for 8 years, in all honesty I was crazy about him I felt like he was the one we have been together since we were 15 years old and I was always one of the guys so I feel like he treats me as such I was hoping he would change and treat me the way I am supposed to be treated but that never happened the sex was amazing at first but now its boring and unsatisfying and trust me we have tried everything when we are together I feel like just get it over with and get off me already. I almost feel a bit of hate towards him. Its not like I keep things to myself either I have spoken to him a million times we have gone to counseling and he has an epiphany and then nothing changes, I have tried my heart out to make him happy but its not the same from his end he does what I say but that's not a relationship that's a parent child situation. I do mostly everything and I'm tired of it. that said I have been feeling like the relationship isn't for me anymore as I do not get what I need emotionally or physically and as a result I don't put any effort to try with him either. since we had our daughter he has put on a lot of weight and that has made me even more un-attracted to him I am someone what of a fitness person and don't like to be out of shape after I had my daughter I was back at it and back in shape but he just stayed my daughter is now one and he is still the lazy slob. for the past 3 years I have just felt like the relationship has deteriorated. like he isn't the one I don't want to marry him or be with him I feel annoyed and sometimes disgusted by him the way he treats him self and me with no care and no love and we have a daughter whom needs a strong foundation in her life. I don't know what to do please help. I want to leave but don't know how. 1
Author MissUn-loved Posted January 16, 2014 Author Posted January 16, 2014 lol tax exile hahaha @Hadyn Thank you so much your advice really helps, no I haven't got my eyes on anyone I have just been thinking I need to do what's best for me and my daughter. Also Cayman is amazing low crime rate warm hearted people not given what we call crabs in a bucket which is people trying to hold you back. its an amazing place you should take a trip. sun sand and fun is all we have and we are tax free that's a bonus lol.
Author MissUn-loved Posted January 16, 2014 Author Posted January 16, 2014 Thank for the advice Tara Maiden, much appreciated relationships are hard to end but when people come together like this to help one another it makes it that much easier. Love.... MissUn-loved
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