twilkerson59 Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 We mutually broke up a year ago, and went several months with no contact. We've been occasionally texting the past two months, and have been starting to break the ice a bit between us. We went to dinner, and also saw a movie together a week later. Here are some things that I thought could be red flags(or at least orange ones): 1. One of the first things she told me at dinner (which was the first one-on-one meeting between us in a long time) was that she "has never felt so unappreciated in her life" due to her new boyfriend treating her poorly (getting drunk at parties instead of spending time with her, and then making empty promises to make it up to her). 2. We were talking about our sexual experiences since the breakup, and she put quite a bit of emphasis on how this guy could not perform. She said "poor guy has no idea what to do down there", and made a few subtle references to how she missed my oral skills. 3. She texted me a few days ago, saying she needed someone to talk to. She then told me her boyfriend cheated on her at a party the previous night, and she ended it with him that morning. I thought it was odd that she was texting me, her ex-boyfriend, about something like that instead of one of her best friends or something. Am I right for thinking that she may be interested in me again? Let me know what you think. If you wanna know any details that I didn't include, do ask.
Philosoraptor Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 She's setting you up to be her rebound, congrats. Don't expect anything serious to come of this. 4
TaraMaiden Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 She's treating youb like the best frien who knows all about her. She's off-loading and merely expressing things to you she can't tell anyone else, because you know what sex with her was like. I'd either try to cool the contact, and ask her to not be so open with you, because frankly, it's not tactful of her to use you as an 'off-loading bay' - or ask her what she wants, exactly, to achieve by being this way with you? Put her on the spot. But be prepared for disappointment, and a defensive attitude. She may believe you're supposed to be her friend, and find it offensive that you're even objecting. That's not uncommon. Dumpers often assume exes can be friends after a while.....
d0cholliday Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 First make sure if you have anything left in you, any feelings, love.... Second be very carefull, she saw the world, figured out you were the best for her, and now she wants back. But you need to play this smart. Go trough your relationship with her, put it on paper, so you don't make the mistakes from your past. Ask yourself do you really want her, and do you think it is smart to take her back, is that what you really want.... I doesn't need to mean that she is setting you up as a rebound, but that may be a case also. If you can be cool around her, with not much emotions, and sure that you won't get hurted, go slowly give it a try, but carefully... That's only if you still have feelings, If you don't you can foolaround till you find someone... Just be carefull, and coolheaded.... Good Luck!
HeartinPain Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 do you want to be her male girlfriend/therapist? That is what it is looking like...
Simon Phoenix Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 Congrats, you have a new platonic friend. That's the type of stuff women talk about with their girlfriends, not with guys they want to be romantic with.
TheVillageMisfit Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 How long did you guys date for? If there's a lot of history then you can really never go back to the friendzone. Hard to friendzone someone you've had great sex with and seen naked hundreds of times. However, if you guys only dated for a couple months and there wasn't a ton of history you're probably either a platonic friend or a quick rebound. The fact you've played it cool for a few months and its progressing sounds to me like she slowly starting to miss the old times with you. You're new again yet comfortable. Girls love both. But stay cool, calm and collected if you want it to progress in my opinion. Stay aloof and don't talk feelings/old relationship. Don't be her friend you talk about emotions with, be the guy she wants to ****.
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