saltyfishhead666 Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 I was wondering if anyone could give me a bit of clearance so to speak. After a pretty horrible break up I picked myself back up and joined a dating site. I wanted to get my feet wet again! Well I began speaking to someone, we exchanged numbers and that was great. One weekend he stopped responding and I didn't chase him I just left it at that. (I deleted my online profile after meeting him) Since then I changed my phone number, didn't move his number across over to my new phone. I set the online dating back up a week ago and today he sent me a message saying I still look fantastic and he hopes I am well. I responded with something similar. In his next reply he stated he loved how inaccessible I am and that he always wants what he can't have. Now my understanding of dating is people talk, date.. Now unless dating has changed since my previous single days what the heck is that about? One would assume if you liked someone you'd want to speak with them.. I think this is mysterious man talk and I am so not getting it haha Thanks in advance xx
Iguanna Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 This sentence that he said "he stated he loved how inaccessible I am and that he always wants what he can't have" shows to me that he is not suitable for a relationship, he is not mature enough and he just likes to be the hunter of women, but not stay with them when they fall for him. It's a rule for me to letting these guys go to find some girl who will be as inaccessible as they like and make their lives miserable. In other words, I'd run away from him. 8
mammasita Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 That's red flag talk right there. RUN! If I was a betting woman, I'd say he was a commitment phobe and a player. He's probably hot as $hit though, eh? 2
stillafool Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 This is a guy that once the chase is over, he will be over you. He's not relationship material.
d0nnivain Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 He's a game player. Once he "gets" you again he won't care any more. Don't waste your time with him. Also, as a rule of thumb, the profiles don't come down until you both talk about that & agree that is what you want. You can do it your way . . . take it down & put it back up but that seems like a lot of extra effort.
Author saltyfishhead666 Posted January 13, 2014 Author Posted January 13, 2014 I was kinda hoping you all wouldn't say that however I think deep down I knew it just hadn't put 2+2 together yet! You are right he is hot as **** and has abs that you could have a BBQ on! Must forget the abs haha xx
d0nnivain Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 I was kinda hoping you all wouldn't say that however I think deep down I knew it just hadn't put 2+2 together yet! You are right he is hot as **** and has abs that you could have a BBQ on! Must forget the abs haha xx You don't have to forget about the abs. You can go off & play with the abs & make them do all sorts of yummy things to you. What you can't do is give this guy any part of your heart. 2
Author saltyfishhead666 Posted January 13, 2014 Author Posted January 13, 2014 You don't have to forget about the abs. You can go off & play with the abs & make them do all sorts of yummy things to you. What you can't do is give this guy any part of your heart. Now that made me chuckle!! A lot!! Unfortunately I am horrible with not feeling anything and would probably end up falling head over heels! Men and their games eh xx 1
Zahara Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 Red flag. He likes the chase and that's the only thing that he desires. But once he conquers you, he will lose all interest. Stay away. 1
d0nnivain Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 Unfortunately I am horrible with not feeling anything and would probably end up falling head over heels! Men and their games eh xx If you can't separate the physical from the emotional, don't go there because this won't end well for you. Sorry.
Author saltyfishhead666 Posted January 13, 2014 Author Posted January 13, 2014 If you can't separate the physical from the emotional, don't go there because this won't end well for you. Sorry. I wish I could!! Sometime's I think a "little fun" isn't such a bad idea!!
Author saltyfishhead666 Posted January 13, 2014 Author Posted January 13, 2014 To top that off he just added me to facebook and I saw one of his friends... Turns out we had abit of a "fling" about 7 years ago. I haven't seen or spoken too him since - oh good god haha
soccerrprp Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 In his next reply he stated he loved how inaccessible I am and that he always wants what he can't have. These are words of someone who may like the "game." Once he has you, what do you think his response, feelings will be like? I don't like it....
Mrlonelyone Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 Yes that is a red flag. No mature person wants what they can't have. That said, the wanting what's unavailable phenomena is very real. Plenty of very old otherwise mature people love the chase much more than the catch. Most of them learn to love the catch after a while. Some never learn. It is like a little kid playing with a toy. Who then throws the toy across the room...but then when another kid plays with the toy the kid wants the toy they threw away. When it comes to what people want romantically in many ways the revert to childhood. Childhood issues and hurts often make people choose unhealthy relationships. They seek to repeat a pattern that hurts them, again , and again. TL;DR: This person sounds emotionally immature. When it comes to love they are like a four year old.
winny Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 (edited) He was probably busy chasing some other chick, that didn't work out or he slept with her.. So now he wants to get it done with u .. Lol.. Why do people waste their lives on these meaningless pursuits I could never get .. Haha Maybe that just defines their standards as human beings and their low characters... When would they understand that sleeping with 1000 hot girls pales in comparison to having one meaningful loving relationship.. No matter how yummy the abs are... Doesn't make him a good quality guy... Edited January 13, 2014 by winny
soccerrprp Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 You don't have to forget about the abs. You can go off & play with the abs & make them do all sorts of yummy things to you. What you can't do is give this guy any part of your heart. ...or your body if you have any self-respect.
regine_phalange Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 Make him happy by never speaking to him again. It seems he is going to enjoy it! 1
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