budley12 Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 Hello! Without giving a huge wall of text, I am just looking for advice whether I should end things with my partner. I am a 22 year old male who moved to Australia from New York after finishing my degree to live with my parter who is a pilot. My partner and I started dating July 2012 where we met in New Zealand (I was studying abroad). We continued dating even after I went home (however we didn't know whether it would last, so we agreed to have a "semi-open relationship" but to be honest about everything). Long story short, he ended up starting another relationship with a guy during our separation (without telling me, and lying about it over and over and over). He visited me in the states in June 2013, and I then agreed I would move over to Australia with him (I didnt know about the "other guy" at this time). After this point we began to plan me moving over to Australia, and he still continued to tell me there was no other guy. After moving to Australia, I snooped through his phone and started asking questions about a particular guy, and he kept being extremely defensive and telling me I was a "bad partner" for not trusting him. I continued asking questions, and after a few months of him feeding me lie after lie, I began to believe I was an untrusting boyfriend. Well, today I met "the other guy". The other guy told me that my boyfriend and him would meet almost every week while we were living in different countries, they fooled around and had sex, and went on trips together… and this was even after my boyfriend visited me in the states ~1 month before moving to Australia. He would send facebook messages saying "I love you, and I am 100% committed", and now I know he was messing around with the Australian guy at the same time. He would say he was "fishing with his pilot friends", and now I found out that my bf and the guy would go on fishing trips together. I am upset that he cheated, but I think I am more upset that I cannot trust the person I thought I could trust the most. I gave up my life back home to move here with him. I think I would have forgave him for the cheating if he hadn't lied so many times… I guess I am just looking for advice, because I am tired of the lies. I fell in love with him, and gave up so much to move to Australia. I want to trust him, but he has lied to my face over, and over, and over…
BigGirlPantiesOn Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 The reason you cannot trust him is BECAUSE he cheated. And lied. And that's what people who lack integrity and live a self centered life do. You know what you need to do. Why do you need our validation to do it?
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