darkmoon Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 (edited) I am wondering how many people value romance and how their romantic behaviour pans/panned out, I think romance means "I love you" or are you romantic without actually saying that you love them, I once got roses on our first date but got dumped 3 moths later, idk, romance may give a false reading of your relationship, anyway, how often are you romantic any thoughts, please Edited January 13, 2014 by darkmoon
Lixxy Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 A lot of acts of romance from men to me can seem too much like "box ticking" and a sense of obligation than anything else... like I'll think he thinks, "ahh women like roses.. I'll get her some roses to show her I love her".. whether he actually does or not. Or I think men think they can just "buy" a woman over with gifts when things of more substance and meaning could have been done. My idea of romance is more like a really good conversation in which we're both soul-searching and trusting one another or something, than more typical gestures of romance.
Trnamakesnse Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 Um I'm a stupid guy when it comes to romance but for me when I feel romance with a woman it's really little stuff. Like talking all night and falling asleep on skype/phone/bed whatever. Getting close and watching a movie together under blanket. Maybe I do it weird but I feel it most in the little moments when there is no "rule" or "box ticking" just a special moment alone with each other you would never want to forget or share with someone else. 1
soccerrprp Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 Being romantic doesn't equate to love necessarily. My gf thinks I am very romantic. I send her (in a LDR right now) flowers and other items weekly. When I'm with her, I constantly hug, kiss her throughout the day. She loves it. She's not used to receiving so much attention, affection. Romantic means different things to different people. I knew a woman that didn't like receiving flowers. But, most do and find that romantic. Romantic is what the recipient deems it to be. There is no cookie-cutter approach or way to express it. For my gf, any gesture of affection, care, consideration is romantic. It's not hard to please her, but the key is to be consistent and genuine. When one is consistent and genuine, enthusiastic about "giving", then that comes close to equating to love.
Els Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 Of course love is so much more than just romance. I find that the truest expressions of love come in the least stereotypically romantic sense - picking each other up when they are down and sticking it out through the thick and thin. Romance is still one of the components of 'romantic' love, though, that differentiates it from familial love.
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