OIOI Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 Hey people, I tend to make my posts really long because I get carried away. I will try and keep this one shorter. 1. We started off long distance and I've been with her for 3 months now. Things are great. We've been on a holiday, she has come to see me and I've went to see her during few times during this time. 2. I will soon be relocating to where she is (which is also my hometown). I am the one living abroad right now. 3. I am running a family business abroad. 4. I can work remotely no matter wherever I am. All I need is my laptop. The CEO (i.e. my father) gave me permission to return to my hometown for 6 months (after a lot of discussion and arguing) since I believe a couple needs to be together (especially in the beginning) to build up a strong foundation. I will be leaving to see her in 2 days from now. However, all of a sudden today, my father says he'll only give me 3 months time. His biggest concern is that I will not care about my job and will only spend my time with her. Now, I take my job very seriously and he knows this very well. I don't wanna sound arrogant but half of the company's clients rely on me to stay in contact with them 24/7. Our clients are from all around the world and since we all have different time zones and public holidays I cannot spend a day without working at least a little bit (incl. sundays). Am I being unreasonable of arguing with him that he suddenly shortened it to 3 months in such a short notice? This also really sucks because it's kind of making my father have a bad impression on her indirectly and I eventually want to marry her. Thanks.
darkmoon Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 (edited) you are growing up, older, but your father does not like getting older in sync with you, how much disobedience, independence, you can get away with here I have no idea, he must trust you to stay working in spite of your relationship So I would approach this as you would any employer, candidly, avoid the word "sucks" too juvenile, you made a deal, 6 months, tell him not to worry send him itemised details of your work at the end of each working day, offer to do this in a willing manner, you are happy to liaise with him, or go on Skype each day have a regular slot, same time each day, where you talk to him about business, friendly and efficient Edited January 13, 2014 by darkmoon 1
justwhoiam Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 Am I being unreasonable of arguing with him that he suddenly shortened it to 3 months in such a short notice? No. 1) Start asking he puts down anything in black and white, just so you don't have to argue about anything afterwards 2) This time, as I guess nothing was in written form, you can make a new deal, that is you get the three months and - if things are going fine - they will be extended to 6 months as originally planned; things going well might be proof of 40 hours of work per week and business in order and happy clients 3) Be sure you agree time off too during the 6 months (with specific details about how many days, what month) 4) At this time, don't tell your girlfriend about your father's fears, as you'd be giving a bad image of him, and she might suffer from it; just say because of company politics, you can stay for sure only for 3 months, and if the business is going smooth, your stay can be extended for other 3 months, otherwise you need to go back and talk about new politics, etc.
d0nnivain Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 Do an awesome job for your dad & show him that you are not neglecting the business. Mid-way through the 3 months, get him to grant you an extension based on your stellar performance.
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