Thedafox Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 I've posted here a time or two in the past almost 3 months and this place has been nothing but amazing. However; I had a moment of weakness and absolutely had to check on my ex-gf's FB profile. She had changed her profile picture from just her to her and her now new bf. It kinda hurt at first but then about an hour later it absolutely hit me hard knowing that she's finally taken the last step of moving on. It feels like it's back at the first day of our breakup. I won't message her (hell I can't if I want, she has me blocked on my phone and I have her blocked on fb ) but the urge to do it is absolutely overpowering even though I know it'll just set me back even more. What's the best way to distract myself? I absolutely hate the feeling that she has forgotten all about me. We talked about being the best of friends if we ever broke up. I miss all the small things we did, our little nicknames, I miss her hand in mine and I miss how I would join her in bed when she was asleep and she would turn to her side and just cuddle into me. Is this the final step of the healing process?
ElecTriX Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 I've posted here a time or two in the past almost 3 months and this place has been nothing but amazing. However; I had a moment of weakness and absolutely had to check on my ex-gf's FB profile. She had changed her profile picture from just her to her and her now new bf. It kinda hurt at first but then about an hour later it absolutely hit me hard knowing that she's finally taken the last step of moving on. It feels like it's back at the first day of our breakup. I won't message her (hell I can't if I want, she has me blocked on my phone and I have her blocked on fb ) but the urge to do it is absolutely overpowering even though I know it'll just set me back even more. What's the best way to distract myself? Well I can only talk about how I sometime distract myself is to set my mood kindof. I think stuff like; "She doesn't love me anymore and she's happy with a new guy" "Why be sad and miss someone that isn't sad and doesn't miss me back?" After that I workout for about an hour, take a break and watch tv, some more workout. We're all unique in how we deal with emotions, what works for me is to TRY to see the whole picture ("she doesn't love me anymore") and to push myself to get physically exhausted. I absolutely hate the feeling that she has forgotten all about me. We talked about being the best of friends if we ever broke up. I miss all the small things we did, our little nicknames, I miss her hand in mine and I miss how I would join her in bed when she was asleep and she would turn to her side and just cuddle into me. Been there, done that. Hell, I feel that a couple of times a day. It's nothing wrong with missing what has been, the important thing is how you handle it. Right after the breakup I was extremely low, laid in bed and hugging my pillow hoping to get some form of comfort. Holding hands.. ahh... Yeah. I still miss that so much. But remember, there are more hands out there. Even if you don't want to hear it or not you will have to move on sometime and find another hand to hold again. It's a war against time and your own mind.
Fufu Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 The best way to distract yourself and really help yourself to move on is to have the first right action. And this action is to block your ex gf on your facebook. Whatever she is doing now and who she is hanging out with have absolutely nothing to do with you anymore. She's an ex, exited your life. After you start this action by blocking her, the next you have to do is to consistently stay perseverance and disciplined to focus on what you want to do for yourself and of course maintaining the block status.
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