How do I ask her out?

[yoda1234]

I like this girl. We've known each other for around 2 years or so, but in the last year we've really started talking and hanging out. We talk a lot, I have her number and she has mine. She's got the same tastes as me, a bit boyish and we like the same music. We've hung out, and seen 2 moveis together, but not as a date. She's also a singer in my band, I'm the guitarist. I want to ask her out, but I have a few doubts about it

 

 

1. When?

We've got 2 concerts coming up to play at, Valentines day and sometime in March. I want to ask her on one of those days. Do you think I should ask her on Valentines day to make it seem romantic or not?

 

2. What?

 

What should I say to her? What I'm thinking is this:

Hey, listen, we've been friends for a while and we have the same interests etc, but I think I want it to be more than that. I like you, and I would like to go out with you sometime.

 

Is that good? Please recommend what I should say

 

3. What if she says no?

What if she says no, or "I'll think about it?" What do I say then?

 

4. Where should I take her?

 

Any good first date ideas?

 

Thanks all, sorry I made this post quite long, feel free to answer any question, best answer will be given to the one that helps me go out with her

[d0nnivain]

Don't do it on Valentine's Day. It's too cheesy.

 

 

Don't make declarations. They are awkward & if the feelings aren't reciprocated, you will screw up your band dynamic.

 

 

A movie is a good first date. You don't have to talk. You can hold hands. You have something easy to talk about afterwards. It's not too expensive.

 

 

After your next band practice, I'd say something along the lines of Would you like to go to the movies with me on Friday? When she says yes, tell her what time you will pick her up.

[metalheadmkl]

Cheesy works.

 

Drum up a conversation like "man the holidays sure come and go. These retail stores are making bank on them too. We had Christmas in July and before December was over with we had Valentines card on the shelf!"

 

That opens your door right there. Now just listen to her response and slip in and ask her what shes doing for Valentines day. Don't be scared of telling her you like her and want to take her out on a day dedicated to couples." Hey do you have plans for Valentines day? I like you and want to take you out." It and sadly it took me a while to figure this out IS THAT EASY!

 

If you two are friends you can certainly be lovers. Bring her some flowers and take her on a date you think she would enjoy. You know her best.

 

P.S. Don't wait til the day before Valentines day to do this. Try a few weeks in advance.

Edited January 14, 2014 by metalheadmkl

[d0nnivain]

based on metalheadmlk's response I think there is some confusion about what yoda1234 means by "ask her on Valentine's day". Based on the references to the 2 concerts, I thought yoda1234 meant that he was going to wait until Feb 14 to ask the girl if she wanted to go on a date with him sometime in the future. I highly recommend against that. Metalheadmlk interpreted the post to mean that the OP wanted to ask the girl on a date which would occur on Feb 14. That's OK but it comes with a lot of pressure on both sides so again, isn't ideal.