NC decided to not text ex but he text me instead!

[Weightlesswings]

I posted on here a few days ago asking whether I should text my ex telling him I missed him or not. I didn't end up doing it but however he text me instead! He told me he had missed me etc.

we ended up hanging out Saturday night with his friends and he spoke to me about everything that's happening in his life at the moment.

He ended up acting like he was my boyfriend again, kissing me on the head and cheek etc, he had his arm around me and was cuddling me and I ended up staying the night and we just cuddled (nothing sexual) and in the morning when we woke up he spooned me again.

We also went out for lunch and hung out for a good 5 hours just like what we used to do.

He kept telling me I was beautiful and looked gorgeous too.

 

When I went home he kissed me goodbye and told me to text him once I got home.

 

He text me for a bit and then called me later on and told me he had missed me a lot and it was good to see me and that he really wanted to and that he already missed me and asked to see me today. He was saying this in front of his friends too.

 

What does all this mean? And what should I do next?

[pickflicker]

Did he kick the pot habit yet?

[Weightlesswings]

Did he kick the pot habit yet?

 

We spoke and he's begun counselling and has cut down A LOT. However he hasn't quit 100%.

[pickflicker]

We spoke and he's begun counselling and has cut down A LOT. However he hasn't quit 100%.

 

Well then, you need to step back. You're a complication to his counselling and you can't help him.

 

Back to NC.

[Weightlesswings]

Well then, you need to step back. You're a complication to his counselling and you can't help him.

 

Back to NC.

 

How am I a complication?

[pickflicker]

How am I a complication?

 

Because if he's to get his life back on track, you need to be out of his way. You can't be the motivator to kick the pot, he needs to do that himself.

 

Back to NC.

[Weightlesswings]

Because if he's to get his life back on track, you need to be out of his way. You can't be the motivator to kick the pot, he needs to do that himself.

 

Back to NC.

 

i've defs learnt i cant be the one to make him quit smoking. i do want to be there for him however, and i'm just wanting to know what all that couple acting stuff meant.

[pickflicker]

i've defs learnt i cant be the one to make him quit smoking. i do want to be there for him however, and i'm just wanting to know what all that couple acting stuff meant.

 

You can be there for him when he quits the pot, when he gets things back on track, when he proves he is a man changed for the better.

 

The couple-y stuff is irrelevant. He was feeling affectionate, he was feeling lonely, it doesn't matter.

 

You've got to ignore contact from him.

[goldfighter3]

Go with your heart. If you want him back eventually when he does quit, NC is not the only way to do that. You just have to be sure you aren't the motivation or the crutch he uses to do it, because otherwise it may not last.

 

Having said that, i don't know the story behind this. If the relationship wasn't healthy, then you may not want to get back invovled with all that.

 

We spoke and he's begun counselling and has cut down A LOT. However he hasn't quit 100%.

[reddragon588]

If he is trying to quit a drug habit just because he wants to keep you from leaving, he won't be able to do it. Addiction is a tough thing. He must want to break his addiction for himself, because he wants to, because he's tired of the negative effects it has on his life. This is true of any addiction, whether it is alcohol, weed, cigarettes, gambling, or meth. They are all the same.

 

What will happen if he is just trying to keep you from leaving is that he will go through the motions to keep up the illusion that he is quitting without actually doing it. Unless his heart is in it, it won't actually take. Trust me.. I've done this very thing before myself. It's hard for everyone.