aloneagain09 Posted January 12, 2014 Posted January 12, 2014 A few months ago i started seeing a great guy. We hit it off great and were completely happy. Always laughing aImnd having a good time with each other. He wanted to wait to have sex until we built a solid foundation and take things slow. He confessed to me alot about his past hits with his ex and told me he was scared. But i was just as scared as he was. But we made it official and started dating. And it was amazing. We always made time for eachother and talked all the time via text and fb. One night he sent me a huse long message on fb saying how glad he is that he met me and thanked me for coming into his life and that every moment spent with me is amazing and the next moment even better. He said when he was around me that everything else bothering him in his life was non existent and that when he has his arm around me he feels like everything is right in the world. He told me he was falling for me. We had a great Christmas together and he went all out on presents which he didn't have to do. I met his family which was high for him because he doesn't just let any girl around them. Only if it is serious. He bought us a gym membership and always seemed to want to spend money on me which again he did not have to do. We never fought not even one argue. Then boom he came over on Christmas eve and ended things. Says i need time to heal from my past hurts. I was and still am devastated. I love and care about this man so much. He told My room mate that he didn't not want to end things bit feels its for the best. He said it hurts and he feels bad but thinks its for the best. He told me he still thinks the world of me but wwants move on but would like to chat and hang out again one day. Is there anything i can do to save our relationship. Im desperate. I love him so much. What's going on?
wildsunandmoon Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 Please don't make the same mistake that I made. You need to give him thine and quickly retreat into "no contact". If you truly love this man, you should give him the space he needs to discern his own heart. He also needs time to mourn the end of a devastating chapter in his life before he can appreciate the good (which is you). I really strongly advise you to not ask for him back and to not beg for him to take you back. The last thing you want is a man whose heart is too damaged to love you the way you deserve to be loved. You need to preserve your dignity. I would suggest telling him that you understand and that you care about him. However, do not appear as though you are going to wait until he makes up his mind. Continue on with your life, hold your heart close to you as much as possible and keep a friendly and open-minded mindset towards him. 1
Kopite Posted January 13, 2014 Posted January 13, 2014 Please don't make the same mistake that I made. You need to give him thine and quickly retreat into "no contact". If you truly love this man, you should give him the space he needs to discern his own heart. He also needs time to mourn the end of a devastating chapter in his life before he can appreciate the good (which is you). I really strongly advise you to not ask for him back and to not beg for him to take you back. The last thing you want is a man whose heart is too damaged to love you the way you deserve to be loved. You need to preserve your dignity. I would suggest telling him that you understand and that you care about him. However, do not appear as though you are going to wait until he makes up his mind. Continue on with your life, hold your heart close to you as much as possible and keep a friendly and open-minded mindset towards him. Very wise words. Do this exactly.
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